Well... I think the biggest rejection of a lesson was always respect my parents' authority. A few weeks after I turned twenty-five, I began to fear that I would never leave home unless I directly confronted my parents, so I told them that I needed help outside of the family. entirely outside of the family, that they couldn't help me anymore.
They took it like a slap in the face. The thing is, I had never been allowed to disagree. If I had done this as a kid, I would have risked a spanking, depending on their mood. As an adult, I thought, "okay, well, whenever I raise this issue, they get upset. Good manners doesn't matter anymore, they just don't want to think about me leaving, so I'm just going to be direct."
Now, in the four and a half years since, our relationship has grown back stronger, but I do not think I would have even left home if I had stayed the compliant individual they wanted me to be.
