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Parental problems...
« on: April 01, 2008, 08:18:31 PM »
(I hope I got this right to post this here)
OK,
Im gettin kindda desperate to tell my parents that Im bisexual and a furry.
But I cant! I dont even have an idea on how to start!
I need your help everyfur. Where to start?
They dont know what the fandom is...Itll be awkward for me to just walk up to them and say...(Their not biophobes or anything, phew)
Anyfur got any ideas or tips etc?
Id be gratefull for any help you can give me.
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Re: Parental problems...
« Reply #1 on: April 01, 2008, 08:41:09 PM »
One of my really old friends Kinda just walked up to his parents and started a random conservation with them and when they we're occupied with one thing he just burst out and said he was Bi, they seemed to take it pretty well.
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Re: Parental problems...
« Reply #2 on: April 01, 2008, 08:47:41 PM »
I personally just would never tell them.  :P

But I know you want to, so I'd suggest just getting it over quickly, somewhat like what Spots said about blurting it out. When you drag it out and get really uneasy about it, it can often increase the tension in the conversation and make things worse. Make sure you let your parents know you're more than willing to answer any questions they might have about the fandom so that they can get a good idea of what it is you're involved in.
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Re: Parental problems...
« Reply #3 on: April 01, 2008, 08:55:43 PM »
do it in steps, and leave some time between them, and dont tell them about being bi-sexual and furry at the same time, but leave plenty of space between them... though i might not be a expert at telling things, i read this on some tutorial about telling things like this, i tried to find it again for you, but i didnt succeed

edit: oh, and plz dont call everyone everyfur, its confusing and its not exactly making non-furs like me feel welcome, kthx
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Re: Parental problems...
« Reply #4 on: April 01, 2008, 10:51:44 PM »
I personally think your parents do not need to know about your love (or sexual) life.
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Re: Parental problems...
« Reply #5 on: April 01, 2008, 11:10:43 PM »
Yeah, what parents have to do with ur sexuality o_O
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Re: Parental problems...
« Reply #6 on: April 02, 2008, 01:53:55 AM »
Okay, I can understand why you'd want to tell your parents you're bisexual, especially if you think they're open minded about it.  But I'm not quite sure I understand why you're desperate to tell them you're a furry.  I'm not trying to be mean or anything, I just want to understand.

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Re: Parental problems...
« Reply #7 on: April 02, 2008, 02:49:13 AM »
Personally, I would suggest keeping it under wraps for a while longer...  My parents still have no idea about the fandom, so in this case Dessum, ignorance is bliss.  Might wanna keep it to yourself for a little bit longer.

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Re: Parental problems...
« Reply #8 on: April 02, 2008, 08:33:57 AM »
well my parents know i am a Bi and also that i am a fur (but they have no idea what that is, so that is ok  :))

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Re: Parental problems...
« Reply #9 on: April 02, 2008, 11:54:56 AM »
I'm in the same boat I have not told anybody. I keep standing there but can't find the words. I know for a fact they are gonna mistake me for a zoophile and since secrets are non existant my entire living familiy tree is gonna think I wanna have sex with animals. It wouldn't matter if I try to explain it, the mistake is inevitable. I'm just sick of hiding it.

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Re: Parental problems...
« Reply #10 on: April 02, 2008, 03:35:36 PM »
There's no point in telling them you're a "furry".
If you want them to know animal people are your thing think about it as if you were wanting to tell them racing or loud music was your thing.
I guessing you just want them to be a part of it with you or feel free to geek out about in front of them and know they'll understand it's
just you. Don't worry about that. You can't control what people think of you. You also have to consider this as a double edged sword.
What if they try to use it as a way to relate to you? (Like as a dorky sitcom parent would) lol

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Re: Parental problems...
« Reply #11 on: April 02, 2008, 04:12:58 PM »
Hmm...
Yeah, now I look more closely, I dont actually see a logic reason.
I guess its just me or somthing, making me want to say.
So Ill probably wait till Im older, and then say somthing. Not sure what yet though...
But thanks for the support everyONE, its appriciated, A LOT  :)
So I cant think of much else to sy apart from thanks *SMiles and hugs everyone on this post*

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Re: Parental problems...
« Reply #12 on: April 03, 2008, 07:07:31 PM »
My parents were shocked enough finding out i was a fur... i suggest telling only one thing and depending on how they take that, tell them the other. your choice what you say first.
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Re: Parental problems...
« Reply #13 on: April 04, 2008, 05:01:34 AM »
there's only a few people in rl that i know that know i'm a furry...none knows I'm bi but i don't think that's too important to tell anyone.

but i think maybe my mom knows i'm a furry...

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Re: Parental problems...
« Reply #14 on: April 04, 2008, 10:55:23 AM »
I know you're bi.

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