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Yet another moral dilemma
« on: December 21, 2009, 03:23:05 AM »
Ok so my parents are changing my little brothers' last names to our stepfather's last name, and they asked if I wanted to change mine. Now don't get me wrong I absolutely cannot stand my real father, but I am now the last one to carry on the family name. If I change mine, well, it dies. I don't want to be the reason our name died, but I also don't want to give the impression that I still tolerate my father. Help....please.
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Re: Yet another moral dilemma
« Reply #1 on: December 21, 2009, 03:35:03 AM »
caring on a name in a family line is VERY important. even if you do hate your real father if you switch your last name to your step fathers you'll be dishonoring every single person in your real fathers family tree.
so my advice is carry on your real fathers family name not for him but for all your ancestors in that line.
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Re: Yet another moral dilemma
« Reply #2 on: December 21, 2009, 05:23:22 PM »
Quote from: Bane Darkwood on December 21, 2009, 03:35:03 AM
caring on a name in a family line is VERY important. even if you do hate your real father if you switch your last name to your step fathers you'll be dishonoring every single person in your real fathers family tree.
so my advice is carry on your real fathers family name not for him but for all your ancestors in that line.
That's a little harsh in my opinion seems we know so little about your real father. I don't think you should worry about it too much, you should definitely just go ahead and explain how you feel to your mom and step dad if you can jerk up the confidence, discuss it with them, come to a decision together perhaps though of course they may be a little biased.
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Re: Yet another moral dilemma
« Reply #3 on: December 23, 2009, 11:47:47 AM »
OK mate you need to ask yourself which is more important ,the dislike of your father or a chance to bring honor to your current last name....just something to think about.
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Re: Yet another moral dilemma
« Reply #4 on: December 24, 2009, 03:36:04 AM »
I say you should keep it. In my opinion, it's who you are. Your name has stuck with your family for a long time and I think that's important. My real family name died near the end of WWII so my grandparents could escape Germany. I honestly hate my last name...it feels really fake to me. My brother got a tattoo of my family's old name on his back because he felt the same way.

But it's all down to you. Personally, I think you should keep it.
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