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An Addiction
« on: January 31, 2012, 04:31:17 AM »
*Sigh* I really don't like doing this.... But here goes...


I have an addiction, and I really don't like to call it that but I don't know how else you would describe it.
What I'm addicted to is the internet, when I'm away from my computer I'm either thinking about it or I'm pissed because I can't use it.
When my internet goes down I get incredibly frustrated and angsty. I'm pretty sure I failed half my exams 'cause I couldn't draw myself away from my computer, and I'm falling asleep in class all the time because I'm staying up past 3 in the morning every night.
I even find myself lying to my friends because I want to stay alone in front of my monitor.


This crap is ruining my life and I know it but I still can't bring myself to stop.
Please, I don't need pity, just tell me how to stop this madness before I fail out of school and lose the few friends I have left.
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Re: An Addiction
« Reply #1 on: January 31, 2012, 05:31:56 AM »
Boy, that's a tough one.  I personally have been through a couple of rehabs for drug problems.  I was told over and over again that I had an "addiction", but I didn't want to call it that.  I would argue that I didn't really "need" my drug, it's just happened to have caused me some trouble in my life (some pretty big troubles, to be honest).  And the reasoning of my peers was that if I didn't need the drug, I wouldn't be in so much trouble with it.  I later learned through a program known as SMART Recovery (which addresses all kinds of "addictions", not just drug-related ones), that to refer to oneself as an "addict" or to call oneself "addicted", is a self-defeating way of thinking.  It only sets us up for failure.  One thinks "I'm an addict, so it's no wonder I can't help myself".

But it's important to know that it is worth wondering, because we as human beings can help ourselves.  Many addiction specialists, and current or former "addicts" seem to be under the impression that if someone with a psychological dependency is allowed to believe that they can overcome the problem themselves, they will inevitably fail.  This is to assume that most people aren't smart enough to uncover the root of the issue for themselves- and it's wrong.  In fact, statistics show that 60-75% of people who have overcome a dependency to alcohol (one of the most gripping, and dangerous addictive substances) have done so without the help of any support groups or therapy.  This is not to say that these are unhelpful, or unnecessary, but it speaks for the strength of human willpower.

When I realized this, I got down to business.  I decided that I must have been right all along, and that I didn't "need" the drug.  When I came to the revelation that I was not wrong for believing that I could kick the habit myself, I felt empowered, and I quickly became aware of just how easy life was without the drug.  I became aware of how insignificant the appeal to it was when I filled my time with more productive activities.  I suspect that in your case, having something to share with the real world- the people in your most immediate surroundings- may revive some of the motivation you may have lost sight of in your time spent on the internet.  It sounds cliche, and it is easier said than done- but find a hobby.  Something that you can do everyday.  Something that you don't have to schedule in advance, like drawing, or playing an instrument.  When you start to develop an art and a rhythm to life, you'll find yourself feeling like you can't wait to show the world what you've got.  And that's what you need to replace the constant craving for that instant gratification.  The internet is a way for you to find something entertaining, RIGHT NOW, or to find someone to talk to, RIGHT NOW, or to have something to look at, RIGHT NOW.  But right now, you could be working on something.  Something that you're proud of, and that you enjoy making better.  Life isn't just about the pursuit of happiness, it's also about the pursuit of purpose.
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Re: An Addiction
« Reply #2 on: January 31, 2012, 05:44:10 AM »
Goddamn, I cannot even explain how much that paragraph meant to me...


It's so true though, I realize now that even beyond grades and friends I've let so many things that I used to love slip away from me, things that I genuinely enjoyed and could feel proud about, like playing the piano and bass, I haven't even touched my keyboard in over 7 months, and I used to actually draw (I was never very good at all) but it was something I could spend my time on and feel proud about my progress afterwards, something I could do that my parents would agree was a good use of time. Even exercise has taken a back seat to the internet, I don't even go to the gym anymore.


I've got to stop this now, and this time I've got the motivation to do it, I just need to plan this out and stay strong, the sooner I can convince myself that I don't need the computer, the sooner I can get my life sorted out.


Thank you so much, Joe, you really helped me a lot
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Re: An Addiction
« Reply #3 on: January 31, 2012, 07:04:39 AM »
I'm glad you found that to be helpful, and I hope you really will take it to heart- not just what I said, but what you said as well- about having the motivation to plan things out and stay the course.  Remember that it's not about what you want to not do, but what you want to do instead.  Psychologically speaking, the brain can't hold on to a negative.  To tell yourself "I'm not going to sit around on the internet all night", that doesn't mean anything to your brain.  Your brain wants to know "what am I going to do?"  And without an answer, it will turn to the very thing you told yourself not to do.  Remember that overcoming a habit is not simply a matter of stopping something bad- it's a matter of starting something better.
And it sounds like you already know that, so let me be the first to say- I'm as confident as you are that you'll get a hold of your situation. :D
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