Confused on a lot of things...

[WolvenDogma]

Well, I'll begin by saying I am a closeted bisexual. My ex boyfriend and I were talking awhile ago and we began to kind of fall for eachother. Although I never asked him out yet, I have thought a lot about it. But I don't know, maybe it's commitment issues. I don't know. At the same time I don't know if I should look for a female mate. I know I'm bi but I don't know who I should be with... I really could use some help on this matter. Any replies are appreciated.

[George]

Whoever you have actual feelings for. As far as I know, you don't find the love of your life by walking up to someone like "Hey, wanna mate?". If you end up with a female, then good for you, you can reproduce. That's the only difference I'd say. Just be honest with yourself.

[WolvenDogma]

I know what you mean, I like him but I think my issue is. What if he isn't the one I want to stay with for my life? What if I like him and I don't LOVE him :c

[George]

Then hang out more and see what it's like! You don't have to marry him right away or anything!

[WolvenDogma]

That's another problem. We barley ever get to hang out in school and were both in the closet so. Theres not a lot of time for us to hang out together. And if we did go out then it would be very hard to maintain it considering that we don't want people to know about our sexualities. I live in a very homophobic area... :<

[George]

So do I. How tall are you?

[WolvenDogma]

about six foot, why you ask?

[George]

It is a little random, eh? I just figure a large stature probably helps deter aggressive bigots a little bit.
Anyway, I don't think you should have to keep this under wraps, it's not fair. I'm not sure exactly how bad your area is, and this is not my decision to make, but I think you should just act natural about this. It's not like you have to go up to everyone and be like "I hope my horrible gay-ness doesn't bother you", just be yourselves and don't lie about it.
 

[WolvenDogma]

Hahaha, well. I'll put it this way. I constantly hear people rambling about how homosexuality is a sin and gays go to hell. My family does not approve of it either which makes it very difficult.

[George]

 
I don't know what you can do about that then...I know folks who have gone through some pretty horrible stuff because of this. I'm sure there are other people on here you could ask, I'm out of ideas.

[MaskaTheOtter]

Hahaha, well. I'll put it this way. I constantly hear people rambling about how homosexuality is a sin and gays go to hell. My family does not approve of it either which makes it very difficult.

I can step in here: My family kicked me out for being gay when I was 16, so for 3 years I have been livung in the woods living off the land. But thanks to this site I have found the support group I needed and even have found my perfect mate.


Now for your relationship: I would say if you dont find the feeling of love you can still go for it... (practice makes perfect) I can say just take life slow and learn from your mistakes.


PS: If you need anymore advice or just want to talk, please Message me

[WolvenDogma]

Yeah but the thing is, I'd date him if I could but if we get caught then it would be OVER for me :C I wanna try but I don't know if it's worth the risk.

[George]

If I were you, I would take the risk, but I'm not you, so...

[WolvenDogma]

I dunno, I feel like that the spark I felt with the mate that let me... She felt like the absolute perfect one, there was a feeling with her that was incomparable to anything else. But that's a whole nother story... But anyways that spark, I dunno if it's there. I feel like that someone is still out there that I can feel like that for.

[HyenaKing]

*Pats On back*
I know your feelz, bro.