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Offline Vver

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Some personal questions
« on: December 18, 2009, 03:36:40 AM »
Lately, some friends of mine have been talking about sexuality and sexual preferences and whatnot. A lot of my friends identify as being bisexual, and I even made a friend recently who says he's pansexual. And I've been thinking: What am I?

I've dated two girls, and I'm not straight, fooled around with one guy, and I know I'm not gay, I don't have a preference for either boys or girls, but I'm not bisexual. I don't have a word for it... I just don't feel attracted to anybody. Is this normal? I wonder about it a lot lately. I don't know why; the only thing I can chalk it up to is that I want a way to identify myself. I know I'm an artist, a son, a student; but I've never had a word for my sexuality. Or lack thereof.


Also, I want to be more assertive. It's pretty easy to say things online, I can get pretty wordy, but in real life, I barely talk. Even when I'm around my friends, I barely put a word in. I like being in the background of things, and going with the flow, but I get a lot of flack from my classmates about not talking. They ask me why I don't, and I get embarrassed, so I just don't reply, and then they think I'm being rude, so they bother me. I want to say "I don't talk because I don't want to", but I don't want to be mean, so I just sit there with my head down.

I want a way to tell people to leave me be, but I don't want to be rude about it. I'd like it if I could be more talkative, I love making new friends, but I don't know how to be not shy. I've had the same five friends since I was in fifth/sixth grade and I'm sixteen now. I think it's time for me to branch out. So how can I do this? Advice would be appreciated.
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Re: Some personal questions
« Reply #1 on: December 18, 2009, 03:41:18 AM »
Vver thats pansexuality like me. You don't really care as long as you have someone to love. Nothing wrong with it, and it's not negative in anyway.
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Re: Some personal questions
« Reply #2 on: December 18, 2009, 04:15:24 AM »
I have a friend like that
we joke that he has no horomones... :D
not that u don't
personally, i am quite sure I am straight, and i don't really have any friends (that i know about) that are anything else. Except a few lebians I think...
Anyway, my policy is just to go out there and have a great life... it doesn't matter with who or what...
JUST HAVE FUN!
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Re: Some personal questions
« Reply #3 on: December 18, 2009, 08:33:08 AM »
as far as your sexuality is concerned, most people call it asexuality.

and needing more friends? well no, you dont NEED more friends. you want more friends but only cus your worried about not having enough. But when it comes to friends it's quality over quantity. I never tried to find friends, and I dont have many, but i'm fine.
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Re: Some personal questions
« Reply #4 on: December 21, 2009, 05:17:17 PM »
All I can say is don't lie to yourself, it's what I spent the best of the passed 6 years doing, you don't need to worry about what anyone else thinks on this topic. =)
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Re: Some personal questions
« Reply #5 on: December 21, 2009, 05:17:49 PM »
Thanks, asiabunny. That's a good point.
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