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I feel lost in my own life.
« on: January 02, 2014, 09:32:08 PM »
Lately I feel like I am going absolutely nowhere, I don't have a single clue of what I'm going to do out of school, I feel like everyone hates me or thinks I'm an idiot, I just don't even know anymore. I don't know why I'm posting this seeing how it barely seems like it makes sense. I don't know, I guess that's the point. I have absolutely no idea of who I even am anymore. I feel worthless, like I don't matter... I feel like my life is devoid of meaning.
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Re: I feel lost in my own life.
« Reply #1 on: January 02, 2014, 09:53:45 PM »
Don't be so down, although it may seem like everyone else your age has their plans together, the truth is many of them will change career paths or etc. I thought I had my life all planned out and worked very hard to get trained and get a job but it turned out to be horrible. The most important thing to remember is that stress is all in your head. You are a creature of pure free will and can do what ever you want in life. Even if you have no clue what to do, as long as you are happy that is the only thing that matters. Don't worry about money or other peoples expectations, do what makes you happy and let no one stop you.
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Re: I feel lost in my own life.
« Reply #2 on: January 02, 2014, 09:59:56 PM »
Do not hold out on your expectations of fulfillment at such a young age. They will come as you progress through school and your social life.

When you're 16, there's not a lot going for yourself just yet. You're not established and don't have a title unless you make one for yourself (unless your name is Justin Bieber or Miley Cyrus in which we can all be thankful it's not). Do not mistake yourself as being worthless, because you're incredibly far from it. Don't let the things you do get in the way of forgetting who you are or where you come from. You'll eventually get a career, a title, and a sense of identity/purpose with responsibilities and a family to look after. If you've still got family, friends, an income, and a roof over your head with food on the table, you're a lot richer than most people on the planet.

Keep doing well in school and stay loyal to friends, its all that matters. In college, they will tell you to forget everything you learned in high school. Prepare yourself for some life altering changes come 2-3 years from now. Your entire outlook will change with new people you meet and a new routine you'll have to get used to.

Of course you don't know what you want to do come graduating, very few people do. You're also only 16. I was expected to know (or at least guess) my career path when I was 18. I'm 21 now and still don't know. I graduate University in 4 months and I've changed my career choice a half dozen times. I've been told this is a new generation of workers who don't stick to the same jobs for the next 35 years like our parents did. A lot of employers these days will think you're unmotivated or boring if you do. Find a job that you enjoy with decent pay and work from there.
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Re: I feel lost in my own life.
« Reply #3 on: January 03, 2014, 12:03:38 AM »
Reinvent yourself, find new interests, adopt the ways of a lovable role model.
Who you are is up to you. That's the beauty of a free world. I can say there are three objective meanings in life: to nurture and breed, to maintain territory and/or social group, and to experience. We create our own purposes as we survive and each have the ability to change the world around us as much as we are capable of for the good of ourselves and our social group. In between we have fun and when things are bad we take to realisation there's good to come with much relief and when things are good we enjoy it while it leasts. In life there's always ups and downs which makes things more fun! Learn to enjoy the journey and all the small things you can actually touch, small, taste, hear instead of longing to forever. Don't waste life waiting around, just find something you enjoy and are good at and put your heart into it. Find a cause to work towards if you wish, whether it be in sympathy or a desire for power. You feel people hate you? Why do you think that is? There could be any reason but understand they may just be jealous of your talents/personality or you could be interacting the wrong way and you may need to find a way for people to see you as someone who isn't any stress to be to or even someone to look up to. Be yourself, develop character. It takes time, but you'll get there. To feel happy is a choice, you've just got to count your blessings and benefits of being yourself and not someone else. Still, meet both ways, let yourself evolve but always be yourself. If you're having trouble with finding the right career/hobby fit for someone such as yourself, try an MBTI test (answer for how you've always been like as in childhood not by your current mood), that should really help you. Even if a couple of people have learnt to dislike you, you can find people who will like you, don't give people the satisfaction to dislike them and don't retaliate by fighting with them, just walk away and put yourself above them for your own good. Also, meet friends that are like you, if you're not getting on with current ones - it's not worth wasting time on people that will drag you down as the kind of person who takes energy from having a purpose. Get a grasp on several things you would like to go into, eventually you will see opportunity into at least one of these, one could become your career, the rest of your interests could become simply your hobbies :3

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Re: I feel lost in my own life.
« Reply #4 on: January 03, 2014, 01:35:18 AM »
I was once super blank and could not show emoition,
THEN I SAID
Am i going to do this for the rest of my life?
I sayz no
so i just became very bubbly here and i'm working to making that be true IRL


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Re: I feel lost in my own life.
« Reply #5 on: January 06, 2014, 11:05:33 AM »
MOTHER OF GOD
I'm exactly like you. Last year, I went thought a lot depression, I know how it feels, like really.
You don't know what to do or choose anymore, you don't find the meaning of your life.
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