Ok,really!?

[SadDubwool]

Honestly i feelblike a giant fuckboy for not helping my gilfriend through these tough times for her...its like i'm not helping her whatsoever...she hasn't told me anyhing yet,and i only realized how much more **censor** up it got for her in the Rants thread.....i also can't help but feel like even more of a douche since i constantly start our arguments and put even more pressure on her then she can handle...anyway...guys just help me please,i want to be a good boyfriend but im always falling short

[HollowOfHaze]

If you tend to be accusatory, maybe you should adjust to prevent that. Might help with arguments and the like. Consider her point of view in arguments as well. Why might she be holding her oppinion over your own? If I can ask, what are the topics of your arguments?

[kalan]

If shes not telling you whats up its probably cause she doesnt want to not ,yet anyways. Give her time be there for her but dont press her. Pushing and trying to get information out of her is not gonna help just be the hand she holds. Arguments are a fact of life unfortunately there gonna happen but sometimes you gotta just bite your tongue thats love when you just have to smile and say ok. Ive seen the twomof you around the forums there's love there so for now all you can do is be there for her. I know it can be frustrating my mate isnt exactly the most forthcoming with information when hes having problems and it sucks cause I cant help him when I dont know whats bothering him but I just have to step back take a breath and know he'll tell me when he's ready.

[Dr. Alka Wolf]

Hmmm.... Being a good boyfriend is tough. Believe me, I know. If I have to put it bluntly, you've got to be chilled and laid back. If you feel like an argument is starting, stop yourself before you do, even if you value your opinion. If you ask her to 'come out' to you about what's troubling her and she says no, a simple "Ok" or "It's fine" or even "Sure. I'll be here when you want to, so just talk when you want to," is all that you need.


Being in a relationship is about sacrifice. Maybe, if you just sacrifice some of yourself to be the boyfriend she needs, it'll help out with your issue. Best of luck for both you and your girlfriend man!

[wolfiesmoon13]

Arguments are sometimes hard to stop but ... If you know she's in a bad place at that time and she doesn't wanna talk..just be there...be her rock.. Her friend..he'll just cuddle her..sometimes that's all girls need is to know there's someone there that won't judge them for being who they are or doing what they do