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Am i a bad person for not wanting feedback of my mistakes?
« on: October 06, 2015, 02:48:17 AM »
The top says it all.... i dont want any feedback/criticism when i do something bad.. i honestly want just good thoughts...about the things i do... is that bad?... I just cant handle it...i too often see it as someone trying to be mean to me....  :'(
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Re: Am i a bad person for not wanting feedback of my mistakes?
« Reply #1 on: October 06, 2015, 02:51:04 AM »
It's hard to hear someone say that what you think is right, is actually wrong. It's normal, although you might have a much stronger reaction to criticism than other people.
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Re: Am i a bad person for not wanting feedback of my mistakes?
« Reply #2 on: October 06, 2015, 06:26:09 AM »
I don't think you're a bad person because you don't like criticism. I myself sometimes get the feels if someone scolds me for something I did wrong, but I realize it can help me. I don't really know anyone who 'likes' criticism. Of course not all criticism is someone trying to be mean to you. My friends and I 'criticize' each other all the time, but we're just joking around. I admire criticism from someone like a professor/ teacher because I can improve my assignment or whatever. Like I said, not all criticism is meanness, and sometimes it can be helpful.

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Re: Am i a bad person for not wanting feedback of my mistakes?
« Reply #3 on: October 06, 2015, 07:21:09 AM »
Objective criticism helps to find out what things you do bad or could better, to let you know on what things you should focus to improve. That's why I like it, fully accept it and criticise as well.

But criticism with emotions of personal likings? Nope
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Re: Am i a bad person for not wanting feedback of my mistakes?
« Reply #4 on: October 06, 2015, 06:19:15 PM »
Its just that...im the sort of person who wants acceptance from everyone... thats why i cant take critisism well at all... i know from a teacher is fine...but from a person who is doing the same thing....not so much...
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Re: Am i a bad person for not wanting feedback of my mistakes?
« Reply #5 on: October 06, 2015, 06:30:25 PM »
Is it based on your experience? I know things can be tainted based on your personal experience like how some people are afraid of clowns. I'm skeptical of relationships because my mom was abused by her second husband (physically and emotionally), and that sort of set the tone for me. It really hit me hard.
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« Reply #6 on: October 06, 2015, 06:35:05 PM »
Im very sorry to hear that. but yes, its because of experiences in the past... it happens even now...  :(
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Re: Am i a bad person for not wanting feedback of my mistakes?
« Reply #7 on: October 06, 2015, 06:44:57 PM »
What exactly do people criticize you on? Your looks? grades? skin color? economic status? I want to find out more to see if I can help out. PM if you don't feel comfortable.  ^_^
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Re: Am i a bad person for not wanting feedback of my mistakes?
« Reply #8 on: October 07, 2015, 02:05:27 AM »
Sometimes constructive criticism is helpful, although only being told what you are doing wrong is never fun to hear.
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Re: Am i a bad person for not wanting feedback of my mistakes?
« Reply #9 on: October 08, 2015, 12:27:16 PM »
I believe this is an argument of the Eastern Philosopher and the Western Philosopher.

Let me ask you a question: Do you want to be successful and important or do you want to be happy and humble?

If you want to succeed in life, if you want to be important, if you want people to respect you as a person, you will need to improve yourself as a person throughout your entire life and work on this improvement, this is the Western Philosopher. If you want to go this route than yes, you will need to listen to constructive criticism. Success if built off failure and you cannot improve if you don't know what you need to improve on. This route will make you a better person but will lead to doubts, insecurity and stress.

If you don't want these doubts, if you want to relax and you don't care about importance, you don't care about any of that, and you just want to be happy with how your life is right now, then you are the Eastern Philosopher. The key of the Eastern philosopher is that you can't have an ego, you can't have pride, you must accept that fact that you're not perfect and learn to accept and be happy with the human you are right now. If you take this route, than you can ignore constructive criticism, you simply have to work on being happy with your current situation. This route will make you happier, but won't make you a successful and driven person.
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