Problem Discussion

[Grovygrunge]

Look I know there's already a thread for people to "talk" about what's bothering yo, but personally those threads are for self-gratification. You don't post there to talk about your problems, you post there to get something off your chest and lift that weight of your shoulders because you shared that problem pretty anonymously. That's perfectly okay. But I want a thread to discuss our problems and get to know each other better. Doesn't have to be serious all the time, not even most the time. Just thought it'd be nice.


I guess as the OP, I should start.


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Well let's see. What are my problems? Well I guess the ones I can think of for now are:


1: I don't like myself, I can get quite mean towards myself when I'm in a bad mood. I don't feel I'm good at stuff and it's not just modesty, it's that I just plain don't think I'm good enough.


2: I have a pessimistic view on society and the world and as such I struggle to connect with it at times. I don't want to consider myself a part of this thing that shames women for how they look and ignores the problems of men because they're supposed to be "manly". The **censor** does that even mean?


3: I'm terrified that one day writer's block will come for me. I fear it. I am scared that one day I will stop having ideas for things I could create, even if I pt off doing them. It shakes me to my core that this could happen to me one day.


4: This is maybe one of my biggest problems that I...How to put this? I am scared to start working. I'm afraid. I'm afraid to step onto this mortal coil willingly. To join this cycle of working hard to get money that I don't even want all that much to by things I don't even need to try to make myself happy until I die. I don't want that to happen to me. I just want to enjoy my life and not do that. I dunno if I'm being immature when I say that but it's how I feel.


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Anyway, enough about just me. Let's talk about our problems.

[alex_moons]

You don't have to hate yourself. Just take the good you see from yourself and leave the bad. Sorry I wish I could have better advice in that area but loving yourself can be hard, trust me I know what it's like, but you will overcome it and figure it all out. About writers block you don't have to worry about running out of ideas as our minds are constantly changing and we always have new thoughts or new things come into our lives so u don't have to worry about writers block. If it happens take a walk around ur neighborhood  and just encourage urself to think outside the box. And don't be worried about working I know it can really suck soo much but Ull figure it out. I have extremely bad anxiety and I still managed to work at taco bell, horrible place to work btw. So some of my biggest struggles in my life right now are

1. I have knowone to talk too. I dropped out of school and am home schooled so I have know friends and I just am afraid I am unable to make friends and I don't know how I'll make friends in the future

2. I'm afraid of my family finding I'm a furry and bi. They would disown me and I really don't know what I would do if that happend

If u wana talk some more just kik me at 1965_alec

[moonwolf101]

Don't worry, alex-moons. I'm worried about my parents finding out I'm a furry, too. I have it planned and everything, I just can't come out.

1: I worried about telling my friends I'm bi, I'm scared that they will think I'm creepy and stay away from me...

2: I am worried about being forgotten. My friends are much better artists, and writers than me, and I don't want people to think I don't try, when I do, but it doesn't look like it.

3: I'm scared my friends will reject me.  I have lots of bullies at school and I'm worried my friends will join the bullies and hurt me.

4: I'm scared of myself. I feel like a monster, to put it simply.

[Setcho]

If you are scared of your friends not liking you for who you are then how can you call them friends? you know the exact same thing happened to me, my friends did join the bullies they made my life hell, the worst thing was they lured me in a false sense of security and dropped me like a tone of bricks that was hard, you need to decide if your friends are really worth it, if not move on because the more you grow attached to them the more its gonna hurt if they do decide to ditch you.

1. my memory always lets me down, i used to have an amazing imagination full of ideas, but i always used to forget them and i kick my self for it.
 
2.my interest change, im so so scared that one day ill wake up and i might loose interest in the furry fandom and i will literally brake down if i do

3.everyone i interact with always seems to be smarter than me, i can keep up in most conversation but i know that some of the terminology and the way some speak it just blows my mind away *sigh*   

[HollowOfHaze]

Memory comes and goes depending on the situation and your environment. I am sure you will be just as capable as you once were, just give it time and do not force yourself into a frenzy when you encounter a creative block. If your interests do change, I suggest that you remember the people who you have met here, and stay for the friendships you make above all else. The fandom might leave your interest, but once again, time gives rise to changes. This is absolute. Finally, you say that everyone else seems to be smarter than you. The only reasons that this seems to be the case is because everyone only talks about what they know best. Ask me about firearms and gaming, I will tell you everything. Ask me about agriculture or culinary arts, and I would seem like an idiot. Trust me, you are an intelligent person. The feeling of occasional inadequacy is common for a lot of people.

1: When college starts, I will be alone at my dad's house as I attend community college due to monetary issues. Crappy internet, nobody around. Alone.

2: I constantly feel like I am not worthy of the people around me. I also feel like anybody I talk to is offended by something I say, and maybe my bluntness might be the reason for that.

3: I fear that my life will be a failure.

[Nii]

Your parents are divorced, and you study in community college too? Dude, if only you knew how much my life is similar to that.

I have the same feeling, sometimes I feel like people around me see me as a burden or something, and that I'm not worthy of my friends.

Well, that tought of failure comes and goes in my mind most of the time, but don't worry, you'll find out that sucess is not what you think it is.

Well, as for my problems...

1- I'm not in good terms with myself, I don't like a lot of aspects i have, I don't like my appearance at all, I don't like my social skills, and some other things.

2-I think everyone is better than me... I always think that I'm just a burden and that i should just vanish from existence and never come back.

3-I'm too shy and introverted

[HollowOfHaze]

1- Everything changes with time from what I've seen of people. If you want something to change, and it is possible to change, then an effort with bring about that change usually.


2- There will always be a few people who seem better, however, that is not a truth. Ever person has value, although sometimes it takes time to find out what you are best at.


3- JUST. DO. IT. But in reality,if you find a person you'd like to be friends with, there's no way around it other than to say hi and introduce yourself. However, that doesn't mean you have to get to know every person you meet. Just one or two good friends is enough honestly.


By the way, my parent's are not divorced. Divorce requires marriage. I am in my senior year as of now, so not in college yet either.

[Nii]

3- JUST. DO. IT.

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[Dr.Vice Jameson]

I think one of my friends is a furry, and he's the one who lead me to the fandom, but I don't know for sure, and none of my friends know I'm a furry. He jokes about furry stuff, but I don't know if he actually is a furry, and since he's joking, he either is a furry or laughs at the notion of the fandom, in which case telling him would ruin our friendship maybe. Someone please help.

[HollowOfHaze]

There is a mid ground to that.


It's quite possible that he jokes about furries without any real aggression or insult intended.


Go ahead and ask him if you really want to know, it wouldn't hurt. Knowing is better than guessing.

[Dr.Vice Jameson]

True, I'll and him. Thx.