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I have her back. Now how do I keep it that way?
« on: June 05, 2010, 04:01:57 AM »
Me and my beloved Renee broke up about a year ago, because I was smothering her in my depressed need for love. Now, ironically only after I stopped needing love, she came back to me, apparently needing it herself.

I love her dearly, and don't want to lose her, but I'm afraid I might revert to old habits and smother her again. Now, I need to know: Where does the border lie between holding her under my wing and strangling her? I'm not a girl, so I can't tell where to start.

Sorry for the unhelpful information, it was a struggle to put what I have so far into words  :(
I'm guessing the mystery girl is some kind of root vegetable.

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Re: I have her back. Now how do I keep it that way?
« Reply #1 on: June 05, 2010, 04:03:14 PM »
I completly understand, because for awhile, I had the same problem.
I'd obsess over my guy and call him in the wee hours of the morning just to see what he was up to...
He got fed up with all of the stalking and broke up with me.

My advice to you would be to talk to your girlfriend about how your feeling.
Maybe you're feeling clingy because you're afraid of losing her? That's how I felt. I don't know, because I'm not you.
Soulsearching does wonders, and once you find the root of the problem, try talking to her about it, even if it seems awkward at the time.
You'll be better off when you do. :)

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Re: I have her back. Now how do I keep it that way?
« Reply #2 on: June 06, 2010, 01:13:40 AM »
Try to be just a pleaser. Do what you're sure she wants you to but don't go insane with it or ignore her.
Can't say much really because it's not a very intricate mater. But don't go out of your way to change yourself for her, just little things, don't let her make you want to change what you like doing.

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Re: I have her back. Now how do I keep it that way?
« Reply #3 on: June 07, 2010, 07:58:40 AM »
i'd let her know that I love her, but dont want to lose her again, so if I start smothering her again, to let me know and i'd back off. talking about your problems "befur" they become epidemics help a ton.

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Re: I have her back. Now how do I keep it that way?
« Reply #4 on: June 09, 2010, 04:59:15 AM »
Heh... Um....

As it turns out, the reason she was acting awkward was because she's.... well....

Anyway, everything's fine. And we're REALLY looking forward to when we get my house to ourselves....

Put simply, we're both virgins, and that might soon change o.o

So not really so much of an issue of "might be in danger of losing her" so much as "might be in danger of getting even closer"  o.O
I'm guessing the mystery girl is some kind of root vegetable.

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Re: I have her back. Now how do I keep it that way?
« Reply #5 on: June 09, 2010, 06:26:55 AM »
duuuude, awesome.  B)  fist bump.

 

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