Storytime!- Understanding and Accepting Your Sexuality

[JaimieLove]

Share your story on how you came to understand and accept your sexuality.

After many, many years of being raised not exactly anti-gay but always making fun of and disgusted by gay people I swore up and down I was straight as they come. Early in my childhood I liked to crossdress, only being caught twice. Later during my teens I dabbled in cding very little, it made me feel ashamed. I've always been attracted to girls with tails and ears but never understood why I liked (CONTENT REMOVED) I started to get a little...inquisitive. Also after those and getting older I finally got out from under my fathers idea of who I should be, I decided I should choose to be what I want to be, not what he wants me to be. (CONTENT REMOVED) recently with my best friend I confessed I've had feelings towards guys and always liked gfur.  This has been my first step in truly accepting being bi. I've had 3 girlfriends and 0 boyfriends, hell I've never even tried anything with any guy. The most I've done is cuddle with one. Now I'm really interested in experimenting and seeing whether or not bi-ness is ok with me, whether I want it or not. It's not anywhere close to being solved but I feel very open, more open and accepting of myself than I ever have been. Thanks for reading!

Post your experiences, post your story, what makes you, you? And how did you come to terms with what you are?

[Teiko]

Pretty much I've always been straight... I wouldn't deny that I've had thoughts of being bi before... I dunno. Still haven't figured that one out  . Had some pretty horrible experiences with females and people in general so im basically shifting towards asexual unless somebody really impresses me. I do not actively seek a mate anymore. I found that mates in general are highly overrated haha.

[kalan]

I did grow up in a anti gay family so I kept it quiet that I was bi until I was in college. I met a guy in college that turned out to be a jerk, and I still kept it quiet from the family however I finally had friends I could tell about it and found a group of people that were accepting of it. After I broke up with the first guy it ended badly and he told a few of my friends back home I was bi and my parents flipped out. After years of throwing the bible in my face they have finally learned to tolerate if not accept it. Because I grew up in a right wing christian family I struggled with the whole thing for years before accepting who I am

[AlpineSandow]

I was originally Heterosexual and I used to be very attractive to girls at the age of 8/9. I met this one girl whom I fell in love with and the feeling was mutual... originally. After a few months, I began to put on a bit of weight. She seemed to notice, as she blatantly said, "Ew, you fat pig, I can't go out with you anymore." She left immediately after that like the shallow imbecile she was. Because of that (admittedly petty) reason, I've been asexual, being paranoid of all girls showing interest in me.

[Dubaku]

I was raised in a "What-the-*bleep*-ever" kind of fashion. 'Course I went through the "Gay Jokes" phase. At the beginning of Junior year, I had begun to question my sexuality. I first considered myself straight, then bi, then, upon attending a sexuality and gender identity seminar, I now consider myself Polysexual.

[juliet]

While I'm openly... Pansexual I am kind of against doing sexual things with people.

Anyway I thought I was straight until I met this girl, Anna and she was probably the first girl I ever felt romantically about. I moved though, and I never got to tell her. The reason I fell for her is because she was extremely loving and accepting, and when I was sick, she'd hold me and make it all better. She wasn't overly feminine, and she wasn't a tomboy. She was just like me, in the middle. I really connected with her in a mental way rather than a physical way.

Thats how I discovered I was pansexual. My mom doesn't really give me hell for it, but the rest of my family does... so oh well. I'm happy though.

[Grovygrunge]

Well, I saw some...things on the internet and I "liked" it, this shook my entire world view as I had never considered being into guys but I was pretty okay with the idea and didn't end up panicking too much over that. The real confusion started when I realised I was still attracted to girls in at least someway.


This lead to me discovering what being Bisexual meant and accepted that must be what I am, however had a large period of self hating denial, unable to decide if I was gay, bi or straight. It was a hard time for me and sometimes my thoughts sometimes wandered to suicide. I was able to resist that temptation and came to grips with who I am and what I like with the help of a few friends.


I was comfortable with my sexuality and who I am, and everything was just fine....mostly