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Author Topic: Advice: Telling others about being furry  (Read 99656 times)

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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #615 on: April 05, 2013, 09:56:00 PM »
I've liked furries on facebook and posted furry (and pansexual) related links and articles, informative ones. So far, nobody has noticed except my friend Jason. :3


My fiance is fine with it, even though he doesn't quite understand it and isn't a furry himself.


I also wear a dog collar I bought from petco that has rainbow punk stars on it, and a little cat bell I put on there.


I've also posted pictures of me wearing a tail, and many pictures of the yarn tails I make.


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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #616 on: April 07, 2013, 04:10:09 AM »
Thanks for the advice Feral and Nova! It helped a lot ^_^


I had a conversation with him about it and it all turned out well. He was under the impression that being a furry was a fetish, but I did my best to explain that it's not like that. I told him of my hesitation to discuss it with him because of how I thought he felt about it. He understood for the most part and said that he really doesn't care whether or not I'm a furry. In fact, he actually assured me that he doesn't really hate furries, which was a relief.

In short, hooray for things working out :D

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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #617 on: April 07, 2013, 05:08:53 AM »
Glad to hear it went so well!  :D
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #618 on: April 07, 2013, 05:31:58 AM »
That's fantastic :D

I also have to input that I told some people at university I was a furry. I just kind of said it when the topic went to it, pretty much like "SO yeah, I was talking to some online friends from this furry forum I know, oh yeah I'm a furry, and they were doing yadada", that tactic seemed to work pretty well, had not gotten a single bad reaction XD
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #619 on: April 07, 2013, 08:32:36 AM »
Ahaha, just ninja it in :p
But great to hear it went that way Rhoryc! :D
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #620 on: April 08, 2013, 03:35:08 PM »
We are all happy for you.   :):):):)
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #621 on: May 11, 2013, 03:35:47 PM »
My father can't stand that I'm a fur, yelling "Your not a dog, you are a human being!" Well, I tried explainiong it to him but. Oh well, at least I got it off my chest.  :)
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #622 on: May 11, 2013, 07:38:05 PM »
Oh boy you have no idea what you jut did. You bumped up the dufficulty level up 3 stars. What did you tell him? Exactly.
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #623 on: May 12, 2013, 01:39:25 AM »
I explained to him that what he had found looking into it [yiff, that is.] was simply the result of a few bad apples in the bunch, that there is a lot of really amazing art out there that is NON pornographic. But I think he has convinced himself that furries are animal screwing perverts that are outcasted by the norm.  :/
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #624 on: May 12, 2013, 04:40:49 AM »
I think it would be really helpful to show him actual evidence, particularly this forum.

A really handy post by WingedZephyr describes what a furry is very well, show your parents some posts of this forum and that post I linked and see if they understand after that.
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #625 on: May 12, 2013, 04:45:43 AM »
I dunno  :/  they can be very closed minded...
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #626 on: May 12, 2013, 06:45:05 AM »
I dunno  :/  they can be very closed minded...


It's better to try than to simply let them believe what they do now. After all, you wouldn't really want them to think that you're associated with a group of "animal screwing perverts that are outcasted by the norm."

If you do decide to talk to them, try not to be overly defensive and remain calm. Given your situation, I would treat it very seriously and let them know how you feel.
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #627 on: May 15, 2013, 06:38:39 PM »
So recently i had a therapy session with my mother and father and i explained to them that I was a furry otherkin. They took it all kinds of well and are even going to help me make a tail! And yes, they do sometimes call me their little puppy -.-
But all in all it went well, it made me feel good that there are accepting people in the world, even if they are my parrents and other furs.

As for your situation Hinoko, all I can say is to try and explain in a calm dignified manner, if he chooses to critisice you still tell him how he makes you uncomfortable

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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #628 on: May 15, 2013, 06:59:42 PM »
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #629 on: May 16, 2013, 02:14:46 PM »
Trust me I did!  :P

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