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Re: Any tips for telling parents you are a furry?
« Reply #750 on: August 13, 2014, 03:35:50 AM »
i have randomly said it to some of my friends and i used a positive video to go along with it one i used was telephone being cute and thats how i did it really they understood after that and when they asked about the csi episode i said yea i know that one its just bull

What surprises me is that people actually take csi seriously for these kinds of things.
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Re: Any tips for telling parents you are a furry?
« Reply #751 on: August 13, 2014, 03:38:36 AM »
yep they do uncle kage (anthrocon chairman) hates the show so do i its a load of rubbish they changed the script from what it was made by the furs they gave it to and also the first ever fur con ruined it for us aswell so take it from me POSITIVE STUFF HELPS alot to make people understand
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #752 on: August 13, 2014, 08:56:43 AM »
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #753 on: August 13, 2014, 05:59:10 PM »
I think I try breaking it to my parents by not saying that I'm a furry, but by showing stuff similar I've drawn? I'm learning to draw, btw ^^ I guess I could also use twitter to visibly interact indirectly and follow furries because of the whole mutuality networking thing. If they're not like :o stop tweeting around those strange people then I figure they have no problem with furries, at least x3 I could start just as acting as I've always done, interested in fox species etc, it wouldn't be news to my parents that I like animal related stuff. I'm not interested in the community at cons, not yet anyway - I'm an introvert and agoraphobic so I don't think I'd have to explain the furry community entirely until I may be make a friend I can go to a con with just for the experience which won't likely be any time soon I guess. I rarely leave the house let alone go to cons, I don't think I've ever gone to a con.

I'm shy though so I'll keep looking for more suggestions in this thread. Thanks guys.

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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #754 on: August 13, 2014, 06:00:08 PM »
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #755 on: September 02, 2014, 11:50:17 PM »
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #756 on: September 08, 2014, 08:24:46 PM »
Update: Confirmed my mom doesn't know about the furry fandom. According to her there's a kid at my little sister's school who dresses up like a fox and she thought it was related to 'what does the fox say'. :S
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #757 on: September 10, 2014, 01:38:58 PM »
I told my best friend the other day and thought it was weird and need to get a normal hobby
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Okay so some, if not a lot of, you have known about this for a while so this really shouldn't come as much of a surprise to you. Either way I've done a fair amount of research on this and although I did copy the following it basically sums up what I've wanted to say for a long, long time.

First of all there is no one single definition of what I'm about to talk about is. Even within the fandom, people cannot always agree on just what makes a person a furry or not...

Some would argue that to be a furry, you must think and talk like one (i.e. use furry specific words and phrases). Even if you go to conventions, wear a fursuit, draw the art, writes the stories etc but don't talk using furry lingo, you're not a furry. Basically, someone that may walk the walk but doesn’t talk the talk. I personally don't agree with this definition.

Others would argue that even liking anthropomorphic creatures makes you a furry. You may have no idea the furry fandom exists or have ever heard of a furry convention, let alone any of the websites; simply liking 'anthro' critters makes you a furry. An example of an "anthro critter" as some people refer to them as is the kind of pictures I've been setting as profile pictures and wallpapers.

In my opinion, if or if you don’t consider yourself a furry is a matter of how the individual considers him/herself.

As with any hobby, most furries act like normal people just like anyone you'll meet at work/school or going to/from work/school or anywhere actually. Then there's that small percent that every group of fans, no matter what they are a fan of, that have taken what for most is a hobby and perverted it (sometimes in an all to literal sense, which is often the media's focusing point when it comes to the furry fandom).

As is with so many other things in life, the few that take it too far tend to be the loudest. The silent majority are often forced into silence by the loud majority for fear that people will label them as being in the same class as the minority that have perverted it.

One unfortunate side effect of the internet and the relative anonymity that some sites grant their users is people are able to engage in activities (even if only on a virtual level) that they would never even consider doing in real life. An example of this is trolls (no not the kind from fairy tales, the kind that have a tendency to piss as many people off as humanely as possible) of message boards that say things to people they’d never say to them in person. I think a lot of the stereotypes associated with furries are because of this and the media.

In conclusion, as with any hobby, there are some furries that have taken it too far and/or perverted what for many is a fun harmless hobby. Thus in the process given the fandom a "bad name" so to speak.

I am a part of said fandom so if you have any questions about it then ask. If you choose to disown me then fine, however if you choose to accept my life's choice then it shall only make the friendship I have with you stronger.

This is basically what I've got planed to say and I need advice on how I should tell them about it. Or how I could improve it.


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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #759 on: September 24, 2014, 11:18:33 AM »
This is what I plan to use as either a script for a video on YouTube or as a Facebook status.


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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #760 on: January 01, 2015, 05:17:58 PM »
I have never told anyone because to me, being a furry is more of a hobby than it is a lifestyle, in a sense. I wouldn't mind owning a partial fursuit or even designing and making them were I a little more handy with sewing, but I do not consider it something that I need to 'come out' about. If anyone asks, I merely describe being a furry as someone who likes anthropomorphic art, writing and costuming, and who occasionally but not always have personal characters with which to represent themselves within the genre. Which pretty much sums it up. I wouldn't bring spirituality into it, as not all who identify as furry take it to a spiritual level.


I've never been alarmingly public about it, but neither have I gone significant lengths to hide it either. To me being a furry is no different than being a fan of metal music, or the gothic subculture; you have the loud minority, the quiet majority, the people on the fringes and everyone on the spectrum in between across all ages, classes and occupations.
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #761 on: January 03, 2015, 08:06:25 AM »
so ive been thinking about telling my parents that im a furry but a few days ago i was watching gene simmons family jewels with my dad and gene simmoms was walkimg through comicon dressed like a squirrel in a fursuit (which OH SO CONVIENENTLY fit him perfectly.) And my dad said "Haha Jen look! He's dressed like a furry! You know those people who have sex in animal costumes!" And i facepalmed so hard at that. So im gonna put off telling my dad thay im a furry. But i still wanna tell my friend but im really scared to. Im pretty sure he wouldnt mind but i think he might make jokes in public or tell people or get the wrong idea.
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #762 on: January 28, 2015, 12:45:29 PM »
Well today I'm going to tell my girlfriend I'm a furry. I'm probably gonna show her some positive videos describing what a furry really is first. Does anyone else have any suggestions for me?
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #763 on: January 28, 2015, 12:53:19 PM »
Don't make it out as a big deal, don't say "this is who I really am" or anything else like that.

If YOU make it a big deal, than SHE'LL make it a big deal

It's a hobby, you're a fan of anthropomorphic art, you meet with people who are also fans, you have met some really awesome friends on the way and it's just a way to socialize and share a common interest.
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #764 on: January 28, 2015, 04:09:53 PM »
i know one video ill find it again but uncle kage said something along the lines of cartoon animal fans and i also heard one for fursuiters free lance mascot's
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