Advice: Telling others about being furry

[Dr. Prower]

Don't make it out as a big deal, don't say "this is who I really am" or anything else like that.

If YOU make it a big deal, than SHE'LL make it a big deal

It's a hobby, you're a fan of anthropomorphic art, you meet with people who are also fans, you have met some really awesome friends on the way and it's just a way to socialize and share a common interest.

This is so true. You shouldn't treat it like a big deal. Just treat it like a casual little thing you wanna show her, and if she has the wrong idea off the bat, be prepared to explain away any misconceptions she may have.

[Dax Declan]

Thank you so much guys! I just told her and she took it pretty well. She cosplays and stuff so she kind of gets it. And she draws a ton of anime stuff. I really appreciate all the help guys!

[Dr. Prower]

Of course! That's why we're here. To provide a supportive community of furs so that those who need help or need someone to talk to can have somebody to fall back on.

[nixon/monto]

i remember when i first found out about the fandom i thought my family was going to freak. but to my surprise they didn't. it was really quite awesome. I guess they thought something was going on and they expected the worst and when i told/they found out they were relived. (I guess they thought I was gay or something WAY worse then that.) my dad now even says that if i was gay he would still love me. he would try and get me back into girls but he said he still loved me. (though my dad fully knows I am into the female gender. "any type" of female gender. though I do have a small thing for squirrels.)  btw in my book gay is okay. my father is a Christian but not a hard core Christian. he is a very nice guy and is friends with everyone. he doesn't let his belief ruin his relationships among friends. this just turned into a life story...oops. 

[Kromas Ndorai]

I've been wondering, should I tell my parents and gf about being furry? Its been playing on my kind for a while, so I thought I'd ask all oof you! Yes, including you, the one who reads but never replies! I see you!

But, thanks guys

[White Wolf Guardian]

Personally I don't see the reason or purpose of treating a hobby on the same level as being of a different sexuality. Being furry is like being a stamp collector, both are hobbies, and while most people may not think it's a great hobby, it's still a hobby.

When you come out and say "I am furry" it attempts to suggest you are "something else" rather than being someone described to like something specifically. I would personally just talk about this as "I like anthropomorphic artwork, I think it's pretty cool." otherwise it becomes somewhat oddball to anyone else.

[Kromas Ndorai]

Thanks, that's really helped me out!

Also you always seem to be willing to help anyone, no matter what corner of the forum they are in.

[Karric]

i haven't told my family because my mum is over protective
so this is how what would happen if i told my family
id tell them current reaction a bit confused as to why id be a furry
my mum would research it and find out about the perverted bits ignoring the bits about the fandom
she would think im a pervert ether tell the rest of my family and life would be rely awkward for all of us
or shed just keep it to herself and not tell me why she is acting weird around me and id be stuck
any advice

[Obey138 (Matthew "Fluffy")]

Use router's firewall

[Karric]

i could do but when she searches and is blocked she will check when she is at her partners

[Drakeyboy]

show her yourself that way she doesn't look up the perverted things. done no problem.

[Karric]

true
second word

[L4BY_]

I used to find it interesting to tell other about furries. But like every furry has a different definition of what the fandom/sub-culture is, the people you're going to talk to will have random reactions. I don't know how to handle replies, especially not knowing if they're positive or negative.


I choose to let it be. I love anthropological characters, I wear t-shirts or tail accessories as a way of showing that interest to other people, and let them guess by themselves. If people want to know more about it, then they'll ask me what it means, and I'll say I'm either close to the fandom or say it's a lucky charm depending on their reaction. I find it pointless to go telling people or your friends you're a furry, even worse making it look like it's something life changing, when in fact it's just an interest. I find it to complicated to explain to other what is furry, so I don't.

[Kovume]

I would say to be calm and collective don't freak out and dont do it unless you know you are safe to do it
 

[moonwolf101]

Because I haven't yet, my plan is to get a friend to "accidentally" bring it up in a conversation or as a question around my dad. Then he'll be curious and I'll explain everything. And still answer the question.