Advice: Telling others about being furry

[DKanthrem]

Yeah,just about all my close friends excepted me.....except one,but if strangers or classmates ask me about it I get nervous (I'm kind of a nervous guy) I tried to explain but I can't get the words out ~_~

[FeralWings]

I'm the same when it comes to that, I'll spill out all the wrong words

[DKanthrem]

Well today marks my second day I've been wearing my collar....the question doesn't end . Even though I'm not going to give in, some people didn't even question,people who don't give F's,but this collar is a symbol of who I am and what I'm a part of, I can't give,I never give in its just not the DK way. As long as my heart is beating and my noise is sniffing I won't back down(fire in eyes)

[BoonieFox]

Well today marks my second day I've been wearing my collar....the question doesn't end . Even though I'm not going to give in, some people didn't even question,people who don't give F's,but this collar is a symbol of who I am and what I'm a part of, I can't give,I never give in its just not the DK way. As long as my heart is beating and my noise is sniffing I won't back down(fire in eyes)

Yeah, I've been wearing mine around, and the questions never stop flowing. My mom told me to "take that belt off from around my neck", and I'm constantly asked if it's a fetish or something. My teacher actually pulled me away from my work to ask about it. He was just interested, so nothing bad. So far, my standard response is "because I can". Seems to work for most people, but still. It also is annoying that every time some asks if it's related to a fetish, they feel the need to explain the fetish to me. Like I really want to hear this ten times a day. I've been wearing it for a week, but only twice so far in public.

[DKanthrem]

Three days here,and still being asked,now instead giving a full explanation I just say"because its America " lol it sometimes work,think a collars bad,they should go to New York they'll see more than just a furry with a collar.(ex:brony with a cutie mark tattoo to his arm)

[Subject Sigma]

So recently I decided to be open about being a furry, so I went to facebook and, after weeks of liking furry related stuff and the fandom itself, came flat out and said to the world (well actually my friends) that I am infact a furry. To make sure I wasnt crusified I left links to wikifur on what the fandom was and left links to the youtube videos Furries - An Inside Look, the 3 part series. I thought people would make fun of me but when I returned to school, people were the same towards me, and my friends are very kind and respecful about it and sometimes we joke around about it. I guess it all depends on who you tell and how you tell it, im proud to be a furry and I openly admit it and for that people admire my courage and abililty to be open about what is considered a sensitive topic...still inquiring about wearing a colar or not though...as a canine it makes sence but as a wolf I am wild and free...decisions decisions
 

[nixon/monto]

Sigma… oh. My . God. That was so deep and touching and if you edited it right it could be a speech. You should post that on other fur sites.

"I came flat out with it and I feared I would be crucified. My fears were abandoned when my friends were kind and respectful about it. I told them over social media (Facebook.) I left links and they seemed to understand. Sometimes we even joke about it.. I am proud to be a furry and I openly admit it and for that, people admire my courage and strength to talk about a sensitive topic. I am who I am, there's no changing that.

That sound cool?

[Subject Sigma]

My family is constanly telling me i should write books and or poems because of how good i am at expressing myself in words...I also tend to be a drama llama at times so that helps...In responce to your question, im not part of any other furry sites though i have been considering sighning up. Until then you can share my story with who you please. Also you rewrote that very well i like it alot!

[Lokilullaby]

Don't get the collar.  Unless it has a bell.  I have a choker instead of a collar. Has a rainbow pawprint and a large bell.

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[DKanthrem]

(Applaud) I'm so proud of ya sigs you you leep of faith, but the collar is a bigger leap of faith,and as a wolf myself I thought I shouldn't wear it,but I have a owner so it's respectable that I wear it,but I may go wild for a while,but I'll still protect my owne. As long as I have a single breath within me I'll always guard her.(Sister...)

[Subject Sigma]

Good on you Dk

[ArcticSkyWolf]

2-3 weeks ago I went to my first ever furry con, yay. No one there I knew from the past besides some from Anime North, good. Met lots of new people and of course had lot's of fun. I'm kinda happy that I don't know anyone from school or whatever at the con. I would have been extremely noticible.

[Rhoryc]

Alright, need a little advice here. I have a really good friend who doesn't know I'm a furry. Normally, I'd be open about it but he has expressed his dislike for furries on multiple occasions before. I have no idea whether his knowledge about it is mostly restricted to stereotypes or not, but he seems pretty dead set on his opinion. I don't like having to hide things, but I know he won't react to it well. I've tried to hint to him that I am a furry but the only response I ever got was, "I really hope you're not."

I doubt he'd stop talking to me because of it but I'm just afraid of the negative reactions to it. What should I do?

[FeralWings]

Well, it's bound to be noted somewtime, and in all effect hiding something is close to lying. If he has such a dead set opinion that furries are bad, but you're a good friend of his, then you being a furry might just show him otherwise. I'd try to be as open as you can, and deliberately point out that you've found it hard to say because you thought he'd be negative. If he's truely a friend of yours, then that'll stay.

[NovaAurora]

Hmm... I don't know if you could get away with asking this without giving away that you're a furry right there, but could you ask him casually and ostensibly just out of curiosity exactly why he seems to hate furries so much? If somehow you could figure out in normal conversation where his bias originates, you could use that information to your advantage. Also I agree with feral, if your friend thinks so positively about you but so negatively about furries, you can prove to him just by existing that furries aren't all bad.