Advice: Telling others about being furry

[ShirokuTheHusky]

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[ShirokuTheHusky]

Help! I kinda just tried to tell my dad that I was a furry, but he already "knows" what they are. I tried to get him to understand that furries aren't just what the media thinks they are, but he will not listen. He still believes that furries are just people that like to do it with other furries in costume and crap. Help me please.

[Obey138 (Matthew "Fluffy")]

Help! I kinda just tried to tell my dad that I was a furry, but he already "knows" what they are. I tried to get him to understand that furries aren't just what the media thinks they are, but he will not listen. He still believes that furries are just people that like to do it with other furries in costume and crap. Help me please.

Ask him for what political party he's going to vote.

[ShirokuTheHusky]

Why?

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[Obey138 (Matthew "Fluffy")]

To tell if he believes in everything that media says, despite if it's really true.

[ShirokuTheHusky]

I would be surprised if he is even going to vote.

[MrRazot]

Help! I kinda just tried to tell my dad that I was a furry, but he already "knows" what they are. I tried to get him to understand that furries aren't just what the media thinks they are, but he will not listen. He still believes that furries are just people that like to do it with other furries in costume and crap. Help me please.

It would surprise me if he really knew what they are. I would actually just ignore it until it becomes a problem.
Obviously we all want to do our parents proud, but being a furry isn't like being homosexual. The stigma only exists because we think there is one.

[ShirokuTheHusky]

Help! I kinda just tried to tell my dad that I was a furry, but he already "knows" what they are. I tried to get him to understand that furries aren't just what the media thinks they are, but he will not listen. He still believes that furries are just people that like to do it with other furries in costume and crap. Help me please.

It would surprise me if he really knew what they are. I would actually just ignore it until it becomes a problem.
Obviously we all want to do our parents proud, but being a furry isn't like being homosexual. The stigma only exists because we think there is one.

Well I didn't think he knew they existed, but his description seems to come from CSI Miami or Vanity Fair Magazine

[HagenK]

Does he absolutely must know it?

[Trixsie Vixen]

Show him the Dr Phil episode.  That shows the variety and states the heterogeneity of the fandom.  And since it's good ol' Phil, you know it's suitable for conservative old people


It also gives you clear examples to compare yourself to.

[Dante Zairou]

Personally i still havnt told my family(likely never will because no point to it as it doesnt hold me back) but when it comes to telling mates and friends, honestly if they care about you theyll accept you as long as they dont get the wrong idea about the fandom soooo make sure you have the answers to the hard questions they could ask. Could you loose a friend over telling them, from my personal experience, none of my friends ive told care they dont even bother me about it 99% of the time. on the flip side if your "friends" are all closed minded shallow jerks its best not to tell them unless you want it to go over horribly

[Wolxikin]

^ Fun fact, that video led me into the fandom. I sent it to Shiroku a while back to help him out



Honestly I don't understand why people have to "come out" as a furry, it's just a hobby like anything else

Tim: Jim I have something to tell you
Jim: What?
Tim: I... I...
Jim: You what?
Tim: JIM I PLAY VIDEO GAMES
Jim: TIM YOU'RE DEAD TO ME

That would be weird right? It's no different than that, you don't come out to doing stuff like reading books or going to the gym

[George]

That would be weird right? It's no different than that, you don't come out to doing stuff like reading books or going to the gym

Yep, and treating it differently just makes it stick out. Why treat it different from any other interest?

[FinnegansWake]

I've told only a few of my friends about my status as a furry, here's some suggestions I think will help:

Always be willing to answer questions they may ask! It is important to clear up some thinking about furries that most certainly lie within the thoughts of the uninformed. If they don't know what a furry is to begin with, be willing to explain what you believe a furry is, and also explain what it means to you to be a furry

Keep a calm attitude about it, even if nervous. Some people have more problems with that then others, but I'm sure you'll be fine with that part

Also, super important: no matter what they may think, always believe in yourself and your values you hold. If you are on good terms with yourself, you can be unstoppable no matter the feedback 

Hope that helps! Finnegan ~

[Rob_Silvermyst]

I have found the best method to explaining it to others is explaining why you like it and what it means to you. Anytime someone tries to compare you to what they think of the group as a whole, keep talking about yourself and how and why you are furry. Pull them away from making broad generalizations and keep them focusing on you. That way, they will see one person in the fandom, and it may open their minds up to rethinking what others in the fandom are like. We are a fandom, but we are also individuals with different ideas, opinions and reasons.