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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #840 on: May 11, 2016, 11:25:35 PM »
I told a friend of mine recently and he thought it was weird but didn't really care. I've kinda stopped caring if people find out
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #841 on: May 17, 2016, 10:35:49 PM »
told my boyfriend i was one, turns out so was he  XD XD
Same thing happened to me at my new school 3 years ago. First person I become friends with on my first day, I tell him that I'm interesting in animals and anthropomorphism and he replies "Actually, me too".
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #842 on: May 18, 2016, 05:21:35 PM »
More and more friends of mine catch me on the forums. I'm many of them have never heard of furries.
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #843 on: May 23, 2016, 09:11:58 PM »

I have had good experience coming out, first as an atheist to my homophobic, religious family, and
second as gay to my homophobic, religious family.


I'm a bit of an inflammatory person by my nature, and I honestly couldn't give fewer ****s about what most people think of me, so coming out has been easy for me. I know some people don't consider coming out as a furry to be a thing, but for me it was, and I actually lost more people over it than either of my previous bouts of coming out. It weirds out bigots. However, it makes me happy and I like being a furry more than most other things in my life, so it hasn't been much of a catch 22.

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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #844 on: June 04, 2016, 09:16:24 PM »
i know why you dont like people referring to it as coming out and i agree with you on it


see i want to tell people im a furry so i could work on a suite but my some of my friends in my school are extremely anti furry i know what they say is a joke but its actually really bad so do you think i should leave it or take a chance and tell them what a furry actually is ?


if you want to know what they have said just ask but i dont really want to post it on the thread




thanks for any help it means a lot  :)
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #845 on: June 14, 2016, 03:58:24 AM »
Found out a while ago that one of my friends was disappointed when I told him. He didn't tell me immediately because he was the first person I'd told
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #846 on: June 14, 2016, 06:08:48 AM »
I have one little tip for everyone in this thread. NEVER bring up being a furry, unless they ask. If you truly want to tell your friend, family, or co-workers. Go ahead, but remember their is a place and time for doing that, don't just go around saying, "HI! I'M A FURRY!" Don't do that. Wait until the time is right, wait until they ask.

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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #847 on: June 14, 2016, 06:29:19 AM »
It works on occasion, but the one time I was asked yielded the results I said earlier.
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #848 on: August 11, 2016, 01:21:52 AM »
Yeah, I never tell people I'm a furry unless I know they'll take it well... or if I know they are a furry.
I had a friend who thought furries were weird and would very occasionally joked about it.  I never said anything to her, obviously.

Recently I was chatting with a new friend on Facebook and from a few hints she was dropping I was getting the feeling she was a furry.  At some point I say "I'm the same way. Wolf."  And that brought us a little closer.

There might be another friend of mine, who just might be.  I want to tread carefully... she is open-minded though.


It's always a fun experience when you find out someone you know is a furry.
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #849 on: August 11, 2016, 01:58:27 AM »
My advice: never tell you're a furry.
Simple as that: never tell someone, keep it a secret, keep it for yourself.

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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #850 on: August 12, 2016, 10:19:18 AM »
Actually I've told a few people now and all of them are ok with it. It's no biggie, to be honest. Maybe in the US, where everyone's perception if reality is distorteb by media and cringe videos on youtube, it could be more probelmatic. But I've had no problem "coming out" as a furry to people, at all. Again, it's not something that defines you or which is bad. It's an interest, and that's it. I think that a lot of people make it worse than it actually is.


My thoughts and experiences exactly.
I've never been looked at funny when I mentioned I'm a furry. I don't doubt there are people out there who judge, but those are the people I don't think are worth being around or worth spending time on.
Me and a friend of mine were both furries for years, without even knowing it from one another. Eventually, I decided to mention it, and he was like: "No way! You too?"
Since then we both got a fursuit and going to conventions and events together whenever we can with the suits :P
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #851 on: August 13, 2016, 10:20:39 AM »
It seems as the furry fandom is fairly unknown here in the Netherlands.


Going to Fantasy Fairs and the like (small and big ones), a lot of the people there definitely have heard of furries, they yell it out and want hugs ^^;




But I do know that if you make it a bigger deal than it actually is, you'll only make it worse for yourself.


And  with that I totally agree :D
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #852 on: August 13, 2016, 10:39:33 AM »
I made some friends at an awesome Summer camp, a few weeks ago (I already knew one guy there, whom is one of my best friends, but he still didn't know). Anyways, I told them I was a furry, and they all found it a bit weird in the beginning, but they all accepted it. They just see it as any other fandom. One of the girls were really confused in the beginning, though: When I told her, she asked "So, why don't you have like... the ears, and tail, and stuff?..." I assumed she meant cosplay ears and tails, and the like. I just told her "Well... you don't need that to be a furry". She was still pretty confused, until I realized she thought, that furries were the anthropomorphic animals; not the fanbase. I corrected her, and she then understood. It was actually quite fun to be able to come out like that :P
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
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@Ulvus:
That sounds like a pretty funny confusing situation xD
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Re: Advice: Telling others about being furry
« Reply #854 on: August 13, 2016, 08:53:15 PM »
I told my old group of friends that I was a furry they didn't know what it was. Later I see them on computers I think nothing of it. The next day I find a poster on my locker with my name in bold and yiff photos on the bottom. The rest of that month people were calling me a perv. My advice show info on furries yourself don't leave it to the internet and judgemental parents



 

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