What Is Your Sexuality?

[x]

Well, lately I have become more and more straight as far as relationships go. (well, I have been courting a guy for more than a year, but you know what I mean) But I still find females and herms attractive in a sexual way.

Is that abusive? That I would never be interested in a female or herm for a romantic relationship that lasted more than a week or two? Maybe if I let her know beforehand. But then she might not want anything to do with me anyway.

Oh well. Doesn't matter anyway, just wanted to think about it. Not like I plan on being single anytime soon. My mate is for life, hope he agrees. ^ _^

[NJMike]

I don't really know what I am anymore. I have a mate I met online on Second Life, and he's my first relationship ever. Me being in a relationship with a guy, would make me gay, but if I'm not interested/aroused by the idea of having sex with men or women, so I couldn't really be gay then. I just don't know. I only want to ever be in a relationship with someone just for their personality, not for the looks. So I guess you can say I'm attracted to personality.

[josh_down]

I don't really know what I am anymore. I have a mate I met online on Second Life, and he's my first relationship ever. Me being in a relationship with a guy, would make me gay, but if I'm not interested/aroused by the idea of having sex with men or women, so I couldn't really be gay then. I just don't know. I only want to ever be in a relationship with someone just for their personality, not for the looks. So I guess you can say I'm attracted to personality.

don't stress yourself out about it. it's no big deal. there are plenty of gay people who are not the slightest bit interested in having sex/// just as there are plenty of straight people.

[NJMike]

I don't really know what I am anymore. I have a mate I met online on Second Life, and he's my first relationship ever. Me being in a relationship with a guy, would make me gay, but if I'm not interested/aroused by the idea of having sex with men or women, so I couldn't really be gay then. I just don't know. I only want to ever be in a relationship with someone just for their personality, not for the looks. So I guess you can say I'm attracted to personality.

don't stress yourself out about it. it's no big deal. there are plenty of gay people who are not the slightest bit interested in having sex/// just as there are plenty of straight people.

Oh ok so then I can still be gay even though I don't wish to have sex? I've just always been clueless as to what my sexuality was, but I guess I can't really find out if I never have been in a relationship in real life. But as far as I know, I'm gay as a furry due to me being in a relationship with another male fur and I'm loving it.

[josh_down]

I don't really know what I am anymore. I have a mate I met online on Second Life, and he's my first relationship ever. Me being in a relationship with a guy, would make me gay, but if I'm not interested/aroused by the idea of having sex with men or women, so I couldn't really be gay then. I just don't know. I only want to ever be in a relationship with someone just for their personality, not for the looks. So I guess you can say I'm attracted to personality.

don't stress yourself out about it. it's no big deal. there are plenty of gay people who are not the slightest bit interested in having sex/// just as there are plenty of straight people.

Oh ok so then I can still be gay even though I don't wish to have sex? I've just always been clueless as to what my sexuality was, but I guess I can't really find out if I never have been in a relationship in real life. But as far as I know, I'm gay as a furry due to me being in a relationship with another male fur and I'm loving it.

as i said, it's really not worth worrying about. i'm still sexually attracted to women, yet i call myself gay.... WHAT??? ... the thing is, these words; 'gay' 'straight' and whatever else. they're just tags to categorise people into comfortable cubbyholes that they almost certainly don't perfectly fit into. the worst thing you can do for your own sanity would be to carve yourself into one of them.

just relax. make intimate relationships with whoever the hell you want. it honestly is not that bigger deal

[NJMike]

as i said, it's really not worth worrying about. i'm still sexually attracted to women, yet i call myself gay.... WHAT??? ... the thing is, these words; 'gay' 'straight' and whatever else. they're just tags to categorise people into comfortable cubbyholes that they almost certainly don't perfectly fit into. the worst thing you can do for your own sanity would be to carve yourself into one of them.

just relax. make intimate relationships with whoever the hell you want. it honestly is not that bigger deal

I just want to know because what if I'm asked what sexuality I am or something?

[josh_down]

as i said, it's really not worth worrying about. i'm still sexually attracted to women, yet i call myself gay.... WHAT??? ... the thing is, these words; 'gay' 'straight' and whatever else. they're just tags to categorise people into comfortable cubbyholes that they almost certainly don't perfectly fit into. the worst thing you can do for your own sanity would be to carve yourself into one of them.

just relax. make intimate relationships with whoever the hell you want. it honestly is not that bigger deal

I just want to know because what if I'm asked what sexuality I am or something?

if it's someone you know really well, then you can launch into all the details with that beautiful sentence starter "it's a long story". if it's someone who you don't know, just say something general that kinda describes you. whatever you feel comfortable being known as.

[NJMike]

I just want to know because what if I'm asked what sexuality I am or something?

if it's someone you know really well, then you can launch into all the details with that beautiful sentence starter "it's a long story". if it's someone who you don't know, just say something general that kinda describes you. whatever you feel comfortable being known as.

Well, in real life I consider myself asexual, but I have never been in a relationship before so I don't know what I would like. I just call myself that because neither men or women (IRL) attract me in the slightest.

In the furdom, I consider myself gay, because I'm in a relationship with another male, and I find myself attracted to other male furs as well. I've found some female furs to be attractive a few times, but that is so rare that I just call myself 100% gay.

I guess I'll just stick with those then if you say just call myself whatever I think I may be.

[flames]

I think the main problem with trying to label sexuality (besides the obvious fact that we're trying to label something almost impossibly diverse) is that simply breaking it down into all these categories isn't enough. Even if you consider sexuality to be a line with Absolutely Heterosexual on one end and Absolutely Homosexual on the other with Bi dead set in the middle this doesn't account for Pansexuality, Asexual or the rejection of the gender binary.
Even upon expanding it to a 2D plane with the y axis now representing the intensity of sexuality (with top being sexual and bottom being asexual) this is still overly simplistic...but from what I've seen, plotting a point on this sort of graph remains the best "at a glance" method of describing most people's sexuality without going into overt detail.

At the end of the day most people are ignorant of even well-established labels and many still fight against them or deny their existence. When push comes to shove the best thing we can do is choose a label that is convenient to us and then explain further when appropriate.