the Courage to be public furry

[SoulFox]

(continuing off another post  )
im aware alot of people out there say its nothing to hide and dont have a care to wear tail n ears, but in some places its not as acceptable or just dont want to handle the attention they'll receive. so the furs who do display your public furriness how did you build the courage or did you just not care from the start?

well I'm at least clear to wear it when I'm off the clock, but I'm starting to get the courage to wear it out in public  

 
Can I borrow some of your courage when you have enough? I'll even share! =<

I think this should be a separate topic so you can create one so we don't get off topic

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ill split my courage with you, get a tail myself and then we can build ours up together ^w^
but personally, if i were to meet witha group of furs at the mall or something i would have no worries about wearing tail and ears, but by myself i might worry about everyones thoughts on the inside whether i show it or not

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I used to (and still kinda do) have really bad social anxiety. that means that I really can't stand out or anything without having a panic attack. I've been trying my hardest to get rid of it through furry fandom. and you know what? it's been really fun! Now I enjoy it when people stare at my tail and collar when I go out wearing those, it's like "yeah I'm different and I'm damn proud of it!"
I don't wear furry gear out very often still because I'm waiting till I move out, but it's really helping me overcome my fears

[Runi_the_Neko]

I'd keep finicking with it if it was hidden just to make sure it stayed hidden, then that might look even more awkward... 
 
There are strength in numbers though, which means more strength in courage as well.~ Me myself can't wait for winter even if I hate it, cause I could get to wear my kitty hat without burning up(maybe wear the ears under it...), but I don't know about my tail...i'll have to see about that one.

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I'd keep finicking with it if it was hidden just to make sure it stayed hidden, then that might look even more awkward... 
 
There are strength in numbers though, which means more strength in courage as well.~ Me myself can't wait for winter even if I hate it, cause I could get to wear my kitty hat without burning up(maybe wear the ears under it...), but I don't know about my tail...i'll have to see about that one.

I hang with a lot of fur friends with furry gear, find some people with common interests!

[Runi_the_Neko]

I hang with a lot of fur friends with furry gear, find some people with common interests!

 
Erk..that's a hard one for me unfortuantly. I moved around 5 years ago and still have not found anyone I can relate to outside of the internet. I am in WAY over my head when it comes to finding people with common interests. Plus, college for me is really non-social so I don't talk to anyone when I don't need to~ It might just be all generalization but my highschool taught me a thing or two about the community around here so i'm just basing the local college on that. 

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never hurts to look!

[Runi_the_Neko]

I suppose... would be pretty cool if there was some sort of database where we could look up furries from our state/country and chat with them or maybe even meet up. I'm sure that would lead to a ton of furry hating cyberbullying though so nevermind...

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I believe there is...but I don't recall it right now.
main point is: don't be afraid to be who you are!

[SoulFox]

I hang with a lot of fur friends with furry gear, find some people with common interests!

 
Erk..that's a hard one for me unfortuantly. I moved around 5 years ago and still have not found anyone I can relate to outside of the internet. I am in WAY over my head when it comes to finding people with common interests. Plus, college for me is really non-social so I don't talk to anyone when I don't need to~ It might just be all generalization but my highschool taught me a thing or two about the community around here so i'm just basing the local college on that. 

I hang with a lot of fur friends with furry gear, find some people with common interests!

 
Erk..that's a hard one for me unfortuantly. I moved around 5 years ago and still have not found anyone I can relate to outside of the internet. I am in WAY over my head when it comes to finding people with common interests. Plus, college for me is really non-social so I don't talk to anyone when I don't need to~ It might just be all generalization but my highschool taught me a thing or two about the community around here so i'm just basing the local college on that. 

thats lucky that you have local furs to chill with, but you are def. taking a step further than i have    im just starting to let my sisters see my type on a furry forum(even though they probably dont even know what it is) so wearing a tail out of no where, im going to get alot of questioning.


@Runi_the_Neko, i believe you should try being alittle more social, if at all anyone you feel comfortable talking to. if you see someone else who is quite too, try talking to them because chances are they feel the same as you. i was the same way, but i slowly worked on my social skills and it helped my confidence alot ^w^ but that was just one of my concerns...

[Vine Tabris]

Just because you're a part of the fandom doesn't mean you have to flaunt it with public furry wear.
If it's uncomfortable for you then you shouldn't force yourself to do it.
You have to keep in mind that by wearing furry gear outside of furry socials you will get looked at; people will stare and maybe even laugh, maybe something worse. I'm not trying to be discouraging, but it's something you have to learn to expect if you want to do that.
In the end it's up to you, but you don't really gain furry points or get some higher ranking by being public, so it's not a necessity, but by all means if you want to express yourself no one is stopping you. You just have to keep in mind the consequences; the world isn't exactly filled with cupcakes and flowers all the time.

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I try not to wear my furry gear at home because my family is...er...judgemental

[Runi_the_Neko]

@Vine: I personally would think being able to show what I love would be a big boost to my confidence but I can agree with you on the fact that the world kinda sucks in most aspects and i'm not everyone. Kinda makes me think of people who hate furries just because they like to flaunt their fandom. But how that isn't any different from people that love a certain style of clothing or a certain t-shirt with something on it that they love and wear out in public is beyond besides the abnormity of it when it comes to "the norm" of society.
 
Also, my mom thinks i'm a weirdo for even having furry stuff in the first place so I don't like wearing furry stuff at home either~

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I do agree, some people like to flaunt, nothin' wrong with that

[SoulFox]

Just because you're a part of the fandom doesn't mean you have to flaunt it with public furry wear.
If it's uncomfortable for you then you shouldn't force yourself to do it.
You have to keep in mind that by wearing furry gear outside of furry socials you will get looked at; people will stare and maybe even laugh, maybe something worse. I'm not trying to be discouraging, but it's something you have to learn to expect if you want to do that.
In the end it's up to you, but you don't really gain furry points or get some higher ranking by being public, so it's not a necessity, but by all means if you want to express yourself no one is stopping you. You just have to keep in mind the consequences; the world isn't exactly filled with cupcakes and flowers all the time.

im aware i dont have to but im really growing to the tail fashion and i would like to wear it for the heck of it. on top of that, if it helps build my courage then bonus points!

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I do agree, tail wearing has been a confidence building exercise!