odd love advice needed

[thaos627]

I fell in love with this girl & she fell in love with me. we have everything in common & we were both happy just to talk to each other, but her mom doesnt like me, so she stopped talkin to me so she wouldnt get yelled at & is ignoring me online as well.
 
i really love this girl & want to persue her but i have no idea if that would be good. I also thought about tryin to talk to her mom but i have no way to get into contact.
 
this is her if it helps http://www.youtube.com/rainbowstix we were starting a band too :,(

[Puncia]

So why does her mother dislike you? Might be something to look into, if you can get along.

[thaos627]

its because im older than her. its not a big difference so im lost.

[Ottersmash]

I think the safest route would be to look for a way to talk to her mother. It's natural for parents to be protective of their children, but if you can show her that you're a good man with the best of intentions towards her daughter it might help change her mind.

[Aoren Deringer]

It's an age thing? She may be worried you're just taking advantage of her. Or it could, really, be a number of other things but that seems to bethe most common approach. Talk to her, and if that doesn't work out try to show her your a good influence by example.

[WingedZephyr]

According to her YouTube page, she's 17. According to your profile, you're 23.

If those ages are correct, it probably has to do with the fact that for you, sexual relationships with anyone under 18 can be considered illegal. Even if you and her are just dating, I'm sure this would be at least part of her mother's concern.

The age difference isn't really that much in the big scheme of things, but opinions about that are kind of irrelevant. Right now probably isn't the best time to be pursuing a relationship with this girl. You could be in some major trouble if you try to keep your relationship behind her mom's back and she finds out about it. Try to stay in contact as friends, but wait a couple years before expecting anything else.

[Aoren Deringer]

She's underaged?I cant look up other pages toowell with this computer.... But that explains a lot. That and your over 21 and shes not, which can also be percieved as an issue.

[thaos627]

yes i kno the ages is difficult but she sneaks into bars (without my help) so its not like shes uncomfortable.
 
Well now it doesnt matter cus anything we had is now over. tbh it had nothing to do with any sexual relations, i actually dont like it. her voice is what i liked.

[WingedZephyr]

Even if she sneaks into bars, that doesn't change the law about dating minors. It's still just as illegal either way. And like I said, even if you had more "noble" intentions, her mother does have some degree of fair reason for disapproving.

Sorry things couldn't work out though. I hope you can find someone else who will make you happy, without having to worry about stuff like this.

[thaos627]

i understand shes a minor but shes 17 its not like im sick and shes 5, ya kno. she was great but too late now.

[Ottersmash]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't it legal with parental consent?

[thaos627]

actually its legal to date a minor as long as there are no sexual relations, its legal for everything with parents consent. her mom found her a new bf.

[Jyynx]

I've experienced this on the opposite end(a gril with a guy younger...almost unheard of) but the base to anything is fear.  Unfortunately my friend the only medicine is patience...  Attempt to stay in touch but again you can only wait it out and hope for the best (do not just disappear ) and remember that trust is given and never earned...

Post Merge: January 27, 2012, 02:41:54 AMOh and attempting to get on a parents good side after the "ban" only makes it a lot worse...