Looking for friends

[Thedrake]

Well... how to start...
I'm looking for a group of friends, like I see here or there. What kind of tight group of friend? One with who I can speak with them everyday, RPing with them in public furry chats, play with them in video games... all together, like a tight group of friends ((like I can see one))


I was looking for one since now... several years, a furry one since I'm in the furry fandom 2 years and a half ago, but... I always failed and I never understood why...


I tried to approach people, make effort despite my little shyness I had before, going in a lot of meet, and going in several people's house to know them and such... but I feel like I'm not an interesting person, and I never got almost anything in return. People even sometime dislikes me or hates me...


So I really need some help and/or advice about it.


Sorry if my post was kinda short, I have not a lot of time lately.


Thank you.

[MrRazot]

tantalise the poke thread, person above you game and quote the avi.
when I say tantalise it, I mean post in it whenever there is a new post.
Good hunting

[Thedrake]

Hum... is it enough to make a tight group? :x

[MrRazot]

I would think that from that I have become fairly tight with Lokyar and Anoni.


Just post on all the forum games and talk and have fun.
Even try the IRC.

[Thedrake]

Tried the irc, I speak time to time but it's hard

Otherwise, well... I hope you're right. After how many days you got your friends?

[MrRazot]

just have fun and socialise
you will make friends, the fandom has the nicest people in the world on it from all 4 the corners of the word.
It is doubtless that you will make friends here.
I agree it is hard to chat on the IRC but you get used to it

[Thedrake]

the fandom has the nicest people in the world on it from all 4 the corners of the word.

I don't agree with you. It's not without reason if i wish to flee France and come to USA... ^^"

[MrRazot]

no nice furries in france?

[Spirit Hamaski]

come think of people from different country and can make friend through PM or chatting everywhere topics on this site.


For me, Irc and Secondlife to make friends but can be around in here as well.




Don't push yourself so hard to get friend around but you can talk about anything and people from here will talk back as well too with common interests

[Thedrake]

No, furries on France find me werd so they don't want to talk to me. u.u

Tried in second life, but too hard too. When I try to approach people, I feel like I'm not interesting, so....

[legolyle]

hmm, well drake, I think I sort of know how you feel. Sometimes I wonder if most of us feel like that at a point in our lives-where we may feel like were the "annoying one" out of the group. So, I'm going to use a tad of logic here to hopefully subdue some of your fears

Firstly, when someone is the annoying one out of the group-he/she rarely knows it-in fact, he/she is ignorant of it most of the time. Which is WHY the other people mess with him/her so much-because they have no idea that no one likes them. It sounds to me like you may be a *bit* insecure in that regard. It's important you not feel like that, because when you do-you just reinforce this paranoia that you are not liked.
It is true, that sometimes people might just not like you. But you cannot assume everyone doesn't like you, or that you're not interesting

That's what makes the fandom great-you can talk to people, and they won't treat you like strangers too much, they'll treat you like good friends

Now, I'm not sure if you want to make friends IRL, or just furry friends in general. If you don't mind the friends being online-then just start talking to people via the forums. Comment on some art, do some PM'ing with people you find interesting-or maybe read some journals. Y'know, just get out there (on the forums) and just talk to people! That's the only way to discover if people want to be close friends or not

additionally-it *can* be hard to make some friends because not everyone does the same thing
not all the people that RP, chat a lot in IRC; not everyone who plays video games does much RP'ing. Just as an example
So, don't assume you'll be able to find people who do ALL of that stuff you mentioned. Just set a standard of making friends in general. Some you can talk to, some you can play games with, and some you can RP with

good luck! 

[Thedrake]

Firstly, when someone is the annoying one out of the group-he/she rarely knows it-in fact, he/she is ignorant of it most of the time. Which is WHY the other people mess with him/her so much-because they have no idea that no one likes them. It sounds to me like you may be a *bit* insecure in that regard. It's important you not feel like that, because when you do-you just reinforce this paranoia that you are not liked.
It is true, that sometimes people might just not like you. But you cannot assume everyone doesn't like you, or that you're not interesting

That's what makes the fandom great-you can talk to people, and they won't treat you like strangers too much, they'll treat you like good friends

French furs treated me like someone who is weird, that's also the reputation I got here. So most of them just don't want to talk to me.


I also tried to make online friends on this or that furry site, but as always, nothing worked.

Now, I'm not sure if you want to make friends IRL, or just furry friends in general. If you don't mind the friends being online-then just start talking to people via the forums. Comment on some art, do some PM'ing with people you find interesting-or maybe read some journals. Y'know, just get out there (on the forums) and just talk to people! That's the only way to discover if people want to be close friends or not

additionally-it *can* be hard to make some friends because not everyone does the same thing  
not all the people that RP, chat a lot in IRC; not everyone who plays video games does much RP'ing. Just as an example
So, don't assume you'll be able to find people who do ALL of that stuff you mentioned. Just set a standard of making friends   in general. Some you can talk to, some you can play games with, and some you can RP with

I would love irl friends, but I think i will wait to live in the USA to make them. Waiting for it, I would like to have some online friends :x and I know everyone isn't like me, but almost anyone is fine for me. I'm not really picky about friends, I just don't want them to make fun on me, betray me and such... it happened really often to me.
And I'm not paranoid, when I see someone who tell me I'm weird, or he dislike me and don't want to speak with me and such...


The worse about it, it's I really don't know what's wrong with me. People often ignore me and such but I never has been able to understand why.

[Spirit Hamaski]

Here you met... all of us never hate you just try copes around with us as much as you could! try not to give up so much








-hugs- I know you can do 

[Thedrake]

mrawr... *hugs back* okay, I hope the fear I got won't bother me too much... :x

I have also a problem which doesn't help me for making friends... ((sorry, I often put more information later and later)) I'm not talkative... By that I mean I have nothing in mind to say at almost anytime. When I try, I'm easily blocked... :x but I answer easily to people, so others often have to speak with me first if we wish a conversation...

[Spirit Hamaski]

if you want friend with me and go ahead add me on msn or skype


Keep your mind about skype I dont use mic or listen voices as Im deaf in real life.