I wish they could understand

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So recently I have been on the furry forums, and unfortunately my mother walked into my room while I was in the forums.  I did not try to hide the tab because there was no time, and it would simply look suspicious.  (I did this once with a simple YouTube video and she thought it was porn).  Well she asked, " what's a furry" and I said its just a community I am part of.  Of course my mom, being the spy mom she is, must have googled it because about a week later in the car she said, "so I heard you are a furry, this worries me because the media tends to look at furries as sexual devieants and overly sexual in general.".


I told her that I did not identify myself with that side if the community, and it in general offends me.  She looked slightly skeptical but did not Heston me further.  I then asked her if we could go to a furry convention sometime and she looked extremely worried.  She said, "I wouldnt really want you to go because I have been doing some research on the Internet, and many websites say the furries and very sexual, and deviant.  I am also slightly ashamed that you would identify with such a comunity". I went on to explain to her that I dont identify with this side of the community but she still looked really worried.


What I dont understand is why my mom can't just accept me for who I am.  She always is talking about how I need to try to fit in better at school.  But I simply don't care what other people think.  I am going to be who I am. 


My mother said that she would try to keep an open mind about me going to a furry convention but she needed to look into it further.  I should have explained to her better what a furry was so she didn't find all of the bad stuff online.


I don't think I will tell my dad for a while because he seems to judge me for being different alot.   He wouldn't understand t for sure, and he would just think it is some weird fetish that my son is into. 


I also feel a sense of misunderstanding in my life because I am very confused sexually.  I feel sexual attraction towards both men and woman, yet I have never told anyone this.  I am sure my parents would accept it, but I am sure my two sisters (whom of which I love) would most certainly hate me and spread rumors about me.  Not to mention my grandparents simply wouldn't understand.  And worst the school I go to is heavily republican so I would get bullied, and all of my friends would never accept me.  (just because I might be bisexual, that's how stupid some people are)


I hate how my parents think I need to be perfect at all times.  Any mistake I make is terrible, and yet my sisters have LOTS of problems that they try to ignore.  They see me as little mr. Perfect and I am not allowed to make any mistakes or be different.  Maybe it is because I do well in school, and am intelligent and bright.  (4 point honor role student, national scholar etc...). 


I am so confused and I don't have anyone to talk to who would understand me.  Maybe I will talk to my mom about this because she is very understanding and loving so she would accept it.




Thank you all, and sorry for any misspellings (typed on an iPad)

[Sylvilix]

Yeah I know what you mean. My dad doesn't understand why I like to compete in call of duty. He doesn't realize that I am good enough to make money playing. He thinks I'm just playing to play it.
A lot of people don't understand why I am so shy in person. The reason why is because I'm 16 with a prosthetic leg. I mastered walking so nobody can tell a difference but it's still embarrassing when people do notice then look and start whispering.
If people could just be more understanding of people, a lot more confrontations, fights, wars, etc...wouldn't happen. I guess i need to learn to be understanding too because I don't understand why people are not understanding.

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Thanks for the reply!


I agree I hate discrimination in all forms and all it really does is cause separation and hate.  I wish I could just tell my parents with no fear of discrimination but that would be impossible.

[Sylvilix]

Yeah it's okay though. You have a friend in me! you can tell me anything and there will be no discrimination!

[William Dynwood]

Thats sad... I think you should have the right to decide how you would identify yourself, and who you really are. As for me; first I didn't tell my parents neither that I am a furry, And I've had some troubles with it since my dad installed PC monitor programs on my computer (grrr). After a couple of weeks i finally told them and they didn't seem to worry to much about it (luckly)... as for my friends, they still don't know, and they won't need to know. Why should I tell them if there is no logical reason, byond that: I don't think there are many furries like me in my country, so yeah, it would be weird if I would tell anybody...

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[Sylvilix]

Yeah zehn. What difference does it make? It's not illegal, it doesn't harm people, all it does is make people think oddly of you. There's no need for others to know.

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I don't tell people unless they ask.  If they hate me because I am a furry then they can quite simply get out of my life (as many of my old friends have unfortunately)


Strangely enough my SUPER Christian friend didn't care and I might tell him I think I am bisexual but I don't know because he always talks about how gays are bad, and stuff.


So confused.   

[Sylvilix]

Yeah I wouldn't say bisexual id say bicurious  because if you don't know if you like both then you aren't bisexual. But i wouldn't tell him. Last person I told about my experiments told all my friends and got me beaten up for it so I don't really tell anybody anything about my sexual preferences.

[William Dynwood]

Is it necissary to tell your friend about that? Cause if it is not necissary, you don't have to tell him.

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[Sylvilix]

I like how us three kinda have the same opinions on these things lol

[William Dynwood]

Its a good sign of understanding, Sylvilix its better then just having different opinions, this makes everything easier to understand I think

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[Sylvilix]

I agree. Zehn on an off topic note, you said there aren't many furries in your country? What country?

[William Dynwood]

The netherlands... I'm dutch

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[Sylvilix]

Ah okay. Haven't met somebody from there in awhile! Glad to make your acquaintance.

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Strangely enough nothing is posting.


I don't feel sexual attraction towards anyone in my school.  So when people talk about all the hot girls and stuff, I don't understand it.  If I was in a serious relationship with someone (men or women) and I really loved them then maybe I would feel sexual attraction.


I am really confused...