I wish they could understand

[NautilusWolf]

In my honest opinion, we are just human. My father disapproves of my hobby, airsoft, which is a great release for me other than wrestling. I'm going into the Navy as (hopefully) a corpsman, which is a combat medic. My family is supportive about that, but my father hates airsoft. I haven't even told anyone (other than my sister and closest friends) about being a furry. It hurt, but I'm not gonna stop being myself. I am who I am, I F-Up sometimes, but I don't let it tear me down. And I know what it's like to have parents with high expectations, my dad grounded me for a C in the 10th grade. I'm an AFJROTC Cadet, and thankfully recently promoted. Well, to sum up what I'm trying to say without ranting, you aren't perfect, no one is. You are doing well for yourself and you shouldn't let them get to you. I know saying "cheer up" doesn't always help, but hang in there, you're doing better than I am in school, and I have a 3.2. Be proud! You seem like a good person, so don't let them change that. You're Muffinz the Fox! If you need to talk, just talk to me, HadenWolfFox20.

[excellent_horse]

Hey Muffinz,

To keep this as short and sweet as I can.

Do what you do to find yourself as long as it doesn't harm anybody - which from what you said, seems harmless so it's all good!

Keep your actions to yourself if you are surrounded with people who may be toxic (your sisters spreading rumours). You can open up to people who you can trust to respect your behaviour. To non furries, this appears like you are searching for yourself, (or those who really don't understand may think you are just disturbed) because they honestly don't understand why you would identify as something that they see as unnatural.

Also, if you don't act suspicious about it, ie closing tabs and what not - it doesn't look like something that needs looking into (unless your mom would go into your business regardless).

And the sexual confusion, during puberty you go through so many hormonal changes that it's crazy! This is probably the weirdest time in anybody's life. If you're flooded with emotion and what not, try to use logic, that usually would help me go through that time as well. Think of the consequences to your actions before you go with anything. And if you experiment, USE PROTECTION!!

The good thing about puberty (and anything really) is that it doesn't last forever. By around 19-20 maybe a bit over,  you will stabilize and look back to your teens and laugh. It's a confusing time but that's because you have so many hormones, man, you can't even control it.
And if you are a female in real life, then scientifically you are attracted to females as well. I forget if they found an evolutionary reason behind it but they ran experiments to see what turns on the genders with various sexual orientations and discovered women to be attracted to women. Including those who identified as straight and reported to not be attracted to women (either disconnected from their body and its arousal or maybe just hiding a secret )

Anyway, teens are hard, it'll get better. Especially if you can get yourself a good job and move out. That is if you're done school, don't ditch school unless you have a business strategy that you're willing to commit to.

Seriously, good luck

[cfitz22]

The reason people like to discriminate is because you don't agree with THEIR views. It's not the social norm, therefore it's suddenly the wrong thing to do. Parents are usually very stupid and unaware of how social life functions in today's society. I can agree completely with you, when I was younger my I was scared that my parents would find out about this because I didn't want their views on me to change. I knew that it would cause some sort of disruption. I like to RP and it's what I enjoy because I don't get any thrill out of my current lifestyle of education and boredom. I also didn't want to deal with what you did and explain how not ALL furries are sexual in the fandom. I think a good example would be anime in Japan. While some Americans look at people who like Anime and Manga and say "Oh that's childish.", people in Japan think it's perfectly normal and odd that you think this. It's what the public thinks that influences what is not and what is okay. You should talk to your mother about it next time she brings it up and explain that you aren't some weird social outcast who gets off to this because he hates the world for not accepting him. You need to explain that this is fun for us and it's our way of enjoying and expressing ourselves. If she doesn't understand, then explain that she most likely won't because she ISN'T part of the group and that it's just a think that makes sense to us. If she assumes you're wrong and that she is right, bring up the anime thing and explain that what the public believes is almost always forced upon the few who do not think the same.


Everyone is different, and because of it we are ridiculed.

[ENOJI Kengura]

I understand what u mean, my parents were always skeptic of my choices of becoming a furry and sometimes even restricted me from drawing it. At that point, I began to see the lack of acceptance so now... I really don't care anymore. Inside, I will always be a furry. And NO ONE WILL EVER CHANGE THAT.

[hdrgn]

Even if your parents are as understanding as they should be or seem that way, you always have the support of the fandom community  i stand by any fandom members side nomatter what happens