Feeling lonely

[reddtheraptor]

I feel like everyone has a "mate" (I hate the term) except for me. I feel that I'm surrounded by couples and I'm just some guy you know?

[Cecilia Peromi]

Love is a weird thing. All I can say is: When it happens, it happens.

[Teiko]

Being dependant on other people is not only gonna not help you find a mate, but it's also not healthy for you. Just know that it will happen eventually but don't stress about it - confidence is always more attractive than desperation. And you could rush into something that's not meant to be because you feel pressured to do it, and end up getting hurt. So focus your attention on more pressing matters and it will work out.

[HollowOfHaze]

I don't have a partner/mate/whatever you might call it. I simply don't prioritize getting into a relationship very seriously. I have friends, but none that I would consiider having a serious relationship with just because I don't see a need to.


Do not get a mate just to say that you have one. You should not have to even spend effort looking for the right person. One day, you will just cross paths with someone you like, and it will go from there.


Consider the friends around you as well. You do not need a mate to interact with great people.

[Farewell]

There's someone for everyone only thing I could say is be patient.

[Cheza]

You're far from the only one without a mate/girlfriend/boyfriend/partner/whatever xP
Love happens when it happens, and once it does happen, enjoy it while it lasts. It's a nice thing, but in no way essential.
Just be patient and things will usually sort themselves out on their own.

[Paradox]

As Hollow said, do not get a significant other simply to say you have one, or to feel included or "normal". Doing that is unfair to your significant other, and yourself; not to mention it will doom the relationship.

You are a complete, independent, unique person, and you do not need another person to be such. If you're unhappy with yourself now and looking for someone to make you feel better, the terrible truth is that it won't... I've made that mistake myself a few times. Learn to love yourself before trying to love someone else. =)

If you still are determined that you "need" a significant other, then your best shot is either directly socializing with people who share similar interests (join a book club, go to the gym, bars, etc) or online dating. While what the others said about being unable to force finding love is true, you'll never find it if you don't ever talk to anyone.

P.S. personally, I love the word "mate" =P

[lissathedragontr]

That's okay, not everyone has 'mates.' My friend is an ace and she is also a furry. When asked why she would never have a partner, she said this:"Because I am independent and to be honest, I have enough fur of my own!" It's okay to have one, it's okay not to have one. Cheer up, friend.

[Paradox]

That's okay, not everyone has 'mates.' My friend is an ace and she is also a furry. When asked why she would never have a partner, she said this:"Because I am independent and to be honest, I have enough fur of my own!" It's okay to have one, it's okay not to have one. Cheer up, friend.

Gray Ace myself! I like romance, though; I think there's a word for that... Also: flirting! I like the idea of flirting and making people flustered more than the thought of sex

So yes, you CAN survive without a significant other, if you so desire!

[Akyra]

Go to California lol. Lots of single girls there

[SilverSolstive]

Go to California lol. Lots of single girls there

You go there for the girls? Pfft, I'd go there for Comic-Con.

[HollowOfHaze]

California here. I will state the fact that all the girls I have encountered in my city seem to get a boyfriend purely to say that they have a boyfriend. The same goes for guys.

[Ryan Naismith]

Pssh, florida is the best. It's got California weather, without all the idiot laws, and the possibility of running out of water.

[Caesium Iodide]

I went to California. I didn't like it.

Sorry, I live in Iowa so I like seeing corn and cows more than palm trees and some odd people.

On topic:
Be yourself!!! Seriously, that is the most attractive thing ever. It means a lot more to you and the other person if you're yourself so they aren't surprised by you doing something that maybe wouldn't be in your nature.
"Be yourself because everyone else is taken." - Oscar Wilde. I think he said that…

[Devon "[Aiwendil"]]

I feel ya.  Im alone too. Look at my face and tell me why.