Relationships?

[Silentium Potens]

Considering the dating scene during the teen and young adult years, you're not missing out on much Ulvus.  Too many idiots dating for the sake of dating, or for the sake of having a boyfriend or girlfriend.  Just about all of them crash and burn, and seldom do people get out unscathed.  I've never dated once, and I'm not upset.  If I ever start to feel bad about it, all I have to do is look at all of the failed relationships my older siblings went through, or keep an ear open for drama from some random stranger.

EDIT/P.S.:  Besides, you shouldn't be worried about a relationship at a your age.  You have your entire life ahead of you, so just because you don't get a partner now doesn't mean you'll never.  Focus on other things.

[Ræfóa Aldrnari]

Thank you, that helped a little

[HollowOfHaze]

I have never even considered having a relationship with anyone up to this point in my life. It just never came to mind, and I never knew anyone who I was really attracted to. Well, up until two months ago, but that's beside the point. You shouldn't look for someone actively, and you shouldn't try to rush the process. All that'll give you is frustration, since it'd basically be like having a mate just to say you did, as if your status depended on it.


Just keep going about with your life. You'll know when you find that special someone.

[HyenaKing]

This topic is very foreign to me. In all reality I'm just curious. How many of you guys have relationships? What's it like? How would you go about finding that "special someone"?

It's not something you find, it's something that occurs. Be careful.

[Brownie]

I had one relationship in college. Maybe it's just because it was long-distance and short-lived, but it felt like not as big of a deal as I was expecting, especially after high school where it felt like one of the most important things.

I'd still like to believe there's a "one," though I don't have too much hope anymore.     Between being asexual and off in my own world so much of the time, it feels like odds are slim to none of finding someone compatible. I'm sort of a solitary person, though, so it's usually not too bad.

I wish you luck in finding your best friend, Cecil. 

[Cecilia Peromi]

Thank you Brownie. And welcome to the forums! This is the perfect place makings friends. There are some people here I owe a lot to.

[Goblin Cat 😸]

I think I'm gonna pop in to echo what some of the others have said. Relationships made for the sake of having a relationship won't get you too far. Sometimes you get lucky, but more often than not they don't work out or they turn out to be toxic for both parties. Focus on you. You're not looking for another half because... Well... Surprise! You're a whole thing on your own! And you should focus on yourself and do your own thing because you deserve it as that whole thing that you are.

This is also coming from someone who considers themself asexual and aromantic, but surprise, I'm also in  a relationship with two partners! Things eventually just come together and you'll find the right person (or in my case, people) when you're not searching or trying for it. When you're being yourself and honestly, when you're older, too. You've got a lot of life ahead of you and relationships are likely the last thing you need to worry about committing yourself to, not only because you're still growing, but heck, at your age, is there really anything that you can dedicate yourself to for a really long time? Probably not.

Relationships are something that I think society pushes too hard onto people, as you can be just as happy without one.
Even with my aromates, our relationship is not typical, but something we're all comfortable with, and it takes that bit of growing to figure out what the heck you want from a relationship, if anything at all.

Anyway, I'm rambling now. But that's my two cents!

[Yuffie]

I wonder the same thing, Cecil...

I'm 18. I've never been in a relationship. I've kind of always wanted that dream relationship where the girl or guy is a close friend before we decide to date. Bonus points if the person is a furry or a Brony. And I don't really care if it's online or whatever because there's Skype and stuff.

[Silentium Potens]

By online you mean a long term relationhship?

[138]

By online you mean a long term relationhship?

You're thinking of a long distance relationship. I think they could work , but I would certainly meet them one day. Skype would also help said relationship.

[Ræfóa Aldrnari]

I don't think, I'd mind finding my "one" online, it would just be nice to be able to meet them in person, once in a while.

[138]

I don't think, I'd mind finding my "one" online, it would just be nice to be able to meet them in person, once in a while.

I'll say that you probably could meet the "one" online. I may have actually 

[Ræfóa Aldrnari]

Oooh, you have?
Can I ask who?

[138]

I'd rather not say say for the sake of privacy.

[HollowOfHaze]

I'd rather not say say for the sake of privacy.

Must be the Illuminati.