Relationships?

[Cecilia Peromi]

This topic is very foreign to me. In all reality I'm just curious. How many of you guys have relationships? What's it like? How would you go about finding that "special someone"?

[Aconitum]

Relationships are hard work. I mean... Yeah they're great, but they're hard. However, if you're with someone who you'd give everything to (your heart, mind, blahse blahse), it's totally worth it.

[Cecilia Peromi]

That's what I believe too. But where exactly is that person? How do you find him/her?

[Aconitum]

That person is where you least expect them. And... I guess that really all depends on what you're looking for in the person.

[Cecilia Peromi]

I see... I must sound like a two year old asking these obvious questions, but I seriously don't know these things. I've always had a problem with social interaction. It doesn't come naturally to me like it does for normal people, I have Aspergers Syndrome, a mental condition that inhibits one's social skills.

[Cecilia Peromi]

I don't have any sort of idea what my soul mate would be like. All I want is someone who would love me for who I am. I barely have that now.

[Halei-Helai]

Relationships are strange and can come at you from almost out of nowhere. I am currently in a relationship and have been in this one for over a year. Before our relationship got started we knew each other for a year without anything romantic going on. We went from casual acquaintances to good friends to best friends to sisters over the course of that year, and we were both crushing on each other pretty hard but were too scared to tell the other person. A bottle of wine and a night of bad movies and N64 games changed that.


The moral? No, it isn't the wine, and Troll II probably won't get you a significant other either. Relationships can hit you out of nowhere when you least expect them. These things can't always be planned for.


Not that you shouldn't go looking, mind you.

[Angder]

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Not that you shouldn't go looking, mind you.

I disagree, I know there is a social push to find a mate, but people who look for a mate specifically often come off as desperate and... bluntly... unattractive. Also the bonds formed rarely are as strong as those found by chance, because one of the driving forc often becomes more about HAVING a mate, than who that mate is.


Then again I am an Asexual Aromantic so what do I know?

[Halei-Helai]

I disagree, I know there is a social push to find a mate, but people who look for a mate specifically often come off as desperate and... bluntly... unattractive. Also the bonds formed rarely are as strong as those found by chance, because one of the driving forc often becomes more about HAVING a mate, than who that mate is.

This is true, and perhaps I should revise my original statement. It is important to go looking for another person if it is important to you, but you shouldn't go looking specifically for this other person. Relationships tend to go much better when they arise naturally than when it is forced. So go out into the world, join organizations, take some classes, participate in community events, volunteer, and just meet people in general. The more people you interact with and become friends with, the more likely it is that something might actually develop.

[Cecilia Peromi]

I want what you have Halei-Halai. A best friend who I could share all my feelings with. We'd do everything together and be inseparable....

[Oathsworn18]

I wish the same... I have never been in a relationship before and the only things I know about being in one of them I have learned from novels and the people around me. It's not that I'm awkward around people - I just haven't met anyone yet. You're in luck to have found someone with whom you can do all these sorts of things.

[Furrball]

Personally, relationships and I don't really get along. I've dated a few guys, but after a while, I found out that I was more excited and happy right after we'd break up, cuz then I'd be free. So... relationships aren't really a good fit for me right now, I guess.


However, I always support the relationships of others (provided their healthy, of course). I have noticed that a lot of people focus very intently on relationships... I feel perfectly fine on my own, so I guess that's a bit unusual? That's what it seems like, anyway. 

[Ræfóa Aldrnari]

I want what you have Halei-Halai. A best friend who I could share all my feelings with. We'd do everything together and be inseparable....

I feel you, Cecil. I really want that too, I just don't see anyone around me right now, that are like me. I guess, I'm the outsider at my school, but just in my mind. I mean, I can speak with the others, and it's fun enough, I guess. I'm just not myself

Also, I don't have a significant other too *cries in a corner*

[Oathsworn18]

Don't worry Lumia, you will find someone! There is someone out there for everyone!

Don't give up hope!

[Ræfóa Aldrnari]

Yeah, I really hope so. But, I've never even have a girlfriend before, so to be honest... I'm kinda scared about it...