Relationships?

[HollowOfHaze]

Another thing to note is that a good couple isn't one which never has arguments, but rather one which resolves all arguments. No grudges, no lingering anger. A mutual understanding, even if it reveals a difference in ideas.

I had at least one instance of conflicting ideas with my significant other, but we figure things out and set any disputes straight. Discussions usually end with an agreement and a solution. Even if they don't, we don't end with "fine, be like that", but instead with "I love you" or "There's nothing wrong with having a different opinion". Maybe it's just me, but I think a perfect couple doesn't even remotely suggest a completely similar set of ideas and beliefs between two people.

Sometimes it's nice for someone to disagree. It shows individuality.

[Ventus Fall]

Another thing to note is that a good couple isn't one which never has arguments, but rather on which resolves all arguments. No grudges, no lingering anger. A mutual understanding, even if it reveals a difference in ideas.

I had at least one instance of conflicting ideas with my significant other, but we figure things out and set any disputes straight. Discussions usually end with an agreement and a solution. Even if they don't, we don't end with "fine, be like that", but instead with "I love you" or "There's nothing wrong with having a different opinion". Maybe it's just me, but I think a perfect couple doesn't even remotely suggest a completely similar set of ideas and beliefs between two people.

Sometimes it's nice for someone to disagree. It shows individuality.

This. Thank you, HollowOfHaze to share your thoughts on it like so
I agree, a perfect couple doesn't mean you have to have the (exact) same ideas and opinions, but it's abut constantly working on it an discussing. Communication is key.
It's fine, no. Great if both of the people in a relationship share their own opinions, keeping their own and also agreeing to others. Constantly arguing isn't good, but when you do, and both teams have their own good points, then the relationship can move on to the next step: Accepting your partner is a different person than you and also has his/her own ideas on the matter.

[Kipsy]

I'm recently engaged. Well since November 3rd. Still feels recent to me.
I met my fiance online on Gaia about five years ago. The internet is alright for finding a partner, but I didn't go out seeking someone to be in a relationship with. We were friends first and only friends for a good while then the relationship developed into something else.

[★Amethyst★]

Another thing to note is that a good couple isn't one which never has arguments, but rather on which resolves all arguments. No grudges, no lingering anger. A mutual understanding, even if it reveals a difference in ideas.

I'd agree with that. In a lot of disagreements, not just relationships, I feel like ignoring a problem isn't a good solution at all. I'm not exactly good at sharing my feelings but I'm willing to try if I should need to confront an issue. Like something that's come up recently... Regardless, clearing up misunderstandings or conflicting ideas should be a good thing, even if it's difficult :p

[Panda]

I'm recently engaged. Well since November 3rd. Still feels recent to me.
I met my fiance online on Gaia about five years ago. The internet is alright for finding a partner, but I didn't go out seeking someone to be in a relationship with. We were friends first and only friends for a good while then the relationship developed into something else.

That's adorable! Congrats
Long distance/online relationship success stories are always awesome to me; but Gaia is specifically interesting because I always forget people meet actual friends on there

[Whitepaw Niniichi/Enigir Shosa]

Man, I forgot how supportive these forums are.
I haven't read everything (but with some of the advice I've seen thus far I might be wise to) but I've nonetheless got some questions...assuming anyone checks this thread still. Not being locked is a good sign...
I also have diagnosed mental difficulties and I'm trying to figure out what actually IS? Love as a construct. What is love~? Baby don't hurt me~!
I'm making terrible references.
The point is I've had three relationships, definitively screwed up two and would have screwed the third up sooner or later and I just want to get as many answers as I can from as many people as I can. I'm lost. I don't want to be creepy and desperate, so answers and growth is what I think I need.
Please help, fellow furs~!

[Halei-Helai]

Man, I forgot how supportive these forums are.
I haven't read everything (but with some of the advice I've seen thus far I might be wise to) but I've nonetheless got some questions...assuming anyone checks this thread still. Not being locked is a good sign...
I also have diagnosed mental difficulties and I'm trying to figure out what actually IS? Love as a construct. What is love~? Baby don't hurt me~!
I'm making terrible references.
The point is I've had three relationships, definitively screwed up two and would have screwed the third up sooner or later and I just want to get as many answers as I can from as many people as I can. I'm lost. I don't want to be creepy and desperate, so answers and growth is what I think I need.
Please help, fellow furs~!

Can you perhaps clarify your question(s) a bit? Maybe it is just me but what you are asking right now seems overly broad and vague.

[Styxx Von Doom]

Well it will vary from person to person, I can try to help. But I'm aromantic. So I may  not be able to give you what you seek, however I can and gladly will give you some insight  on your questions.

[★Amethyst★]

I don't mind trying to give some advice too, if I'm able to. I've only been through one relationship myself, and starting to form a second one at the moment.

I feel we have many different perspectives here on the forum so hopefully you can find some useful help ^^

[HyenaKing]

I'm currently single and i'm being pestered about "Who I like." I just DESPERATELY AVOID ANSWERING THAT.
But turns out from avoiding the question, there's like a congregation of guys that've come up to me and just all said "You basically can have any girl you want"
I mean, no? That's not how it works?

[Silaluk]

Because of my rough relationship with my father, I don't think I could ever learn to trust a man.

[HollowOfHaze]

Because of my rough relationship with my father, I don't think I could ever learn to trust a man.

Not all men are the same. Although I can understand where your feelings on that would come from.

[Silaluk]

I know that all men aren't the same, but they all have the same capability to hurt me or other women in the same way that my father and another man did.

[Whitepaw Niniichi/Enigir Shosa]

Well for starters I really don't understand what love is. Like recognising it and not mistaking it for loneliness or worse, plain old lust.

[HollowOfHaze]

I know that all men aren't the same, but they all have the same capability to hurt me or other women in the same way that my father and another man did.

Not in all cases. If you are referring to the disparity in strength between men and women, then that would make sense. However, just because a person might have the physical capability to do harm, it does not mean that they possess the moral capacity to hurt another person in a similar way. It comes down to each individual, and who they are as a person. Both genders are capable of displaying abusive behavior, but it is the responsibility and inherent dignity of a person which prevents them from acting out of anger in a violent way.