Relationships?

[Ræfóa Aldrnari]

I'm sorry to hear about your past, Alistar, but I'm happy to hear, you're in a healthy relationship now




Don't worry Makias. I'm sure you'll build up the courage someday. If you ever need advice, or anything, you can just ask me. Now, I don't know if I'm the best when it comes to that sort of advice, but I'm here for you


I feel kinda weird talking about relationships, and hearing about other people's relationships on here, actually. One part of me feels lonely, in that way, where you feel lonely after hearing about people's relationship, when you're single, youself. But another part of me doesn't really mind talking about it, and feels kinda good about being single. I guess I'm just in sort of a confused state right now, but I don't know.

[Denimonster]

I'm currently in an online relationship with my mate Ryan.
He lives in Britain but we've seen each other quite a handful of times. We've dated since early 2010, and though we've had our ups and downs, we've never had a serious argument.

[Armalite_]

My gf lives about 40 minutes from me, its good and bad since I'm doing all the driving and she's doing a lot of bussing but it's a relationship that's been going strong since July 2014. We chill about 3-4 times a week and spend most of the time in bed together, eating, or chiling. Her parents are old school and never trust me with borrowing her for a whole night, despite me showering her with cool and expensive gifts and always returning her home when she needs to be. It was easier when they didn't know we were going out together >__>


My Ex's have been nightmares. My longest relationship was 4 years. I found that the emotional bond decreases with the more people I have relationships with. I think so much of my emotional/mental anguish that had been invested in so many relationships that went nowhere made me that way, but it keeps me safe from mental breakdowns if something were to split up me and my current mate.


She's not a furry and she's politically opposite to me and she doesn't like many of the things I do but she is equally intruiged and supportive of anything I put my mind to. I'm 2 years older than her and she never takes anything too seriously, which I always admired even when I was mad at her for something. I wish I was more like that. She taught me to laugh at things that I never found funny. Lame jokes and puns make her laugh which, in turn, makes me laugh. We argue sometimes but we always make up within the hour. She beats me to the apology.

[Glacier]

I've had a couple relationships before, but there's a trick. They've all been online.
Honestly I'm not proud of it and I wish I was braver IRL because honestly I can't stick to online relationships all my life. And if they work they can be really enjoyable. Sure, there's no physical contact or hugs or the like, but you can still feel the love in the air. (ohgoshwhatdidIjustsay)
Right now I'd like one just because I've been rather lonely going to a new school and having no good friends, but my past ones have scarred me to a point in which I don't know if it would be a wise decision.

[Wolfie the Umbreon]

Currently, I don't have any relationships with other people , but i'd like to, though i'm not really interested on it.

[Styxx Von Doom]

Nix you might fall under the aromantic/asexual  spectrums. Also I'm realizing that I have zero interest and little compassion for most humans. As the days go on

[Styxx Von Doom]

Aromantic is not a sexual identity per say. But I'm just going to honestly drop it. You know if you need someone to talk to I'm always here for you.

Also sometimes some people have to be ready to love. Me on the other hand, I am incapable of that emotion.

[CrazyCat]

I has a boyfriend nao =D
And he's a furry too

We both have pretty similar views, enjoy many of the same things and get along really well.

We talk to each other on Steam chat all the time, but we don't see each other too often even though we only live like half an hour away from each other. Neither of us own a car. However, we both go to this social group for young adults with autism, so that allows us to meet at least once a month. Though we pretty much have to act like friends in there. They're pretty strict about public displays of affection.
However, we got the opportunity to go out to watch a movie (Zootopia if you're wondering). So I'll see how that works out.

[Ræfóa Aldrnari]

Oh, I'm really happy to hear about your relationship, Crazy! It's always great hearing people get together, especially when they match so perfectly!
Even though you don't see each other much, I'm happy to hear you can still keep the relationship running like that! It's awesome that you're going to a movie together as well, have fun!




With me, I still have the same 'looks' on it, as I've had in a little while: If a girl lives too far away (in another country), I don't want a relationship. It doesn't have anything to do with me disliking other countries (which I don't), heck: The nicest girls I've ever met have been from other countries. It's just that the relationships I've had has both times ended up with me breaking it off, because I couldn't deal with the huge distance and time difference. I'm not interested in any girls around me either, and I sometimes feel a little lonely. I'm gonna attend a new school next year, though, and I hope to find someone that I'll be able to get together with there. I don't mind if I don't, but it would be nice if I did.

[★Amethyst★]

I wish you luck Ulvus ^^ It sounds really corny, but you just have to be patient for that stuff.

I personally don't care for long distance relationships myself, either. It works for some people and that's great, but if I like someone I want to spend time with them in person you know? I only get to see my boyfriend twice a week at school and that still sometimes doesn't fee like enough time I want to try hanging out outside of school or go do something fun but he's usually a little busy with work and stuff.

 

[Ræfóa Aldrnari]

Thank you, Amethyst! Yeah, I know I have to, and I actually don't really mind. I've been in relationships, so now I'm at least just not curious about how they are. Now, I just feel like I need to find the right person, and I believe I can do that. I'm in that weird stage right now, where I kiiiinda want a girlfriend, and I sometimes feel lonely, but at the same time, I don't really mind if I don't have one.


Well, whatever works for you is just great   And yeah, that's exactly how I feel as well. If I'm with someone, I need to be physically there with them. Oh, I can understand that. Two times a week may sound okay, but it may not sound like enough. Hang in there, though! You'll eventually find time to be with each other, and have a great time!

[★Amethyst★]

Thank you, Amethyst! Yeah, I know I have to, and I actually don't really mind. I've been in relationships, so now I'm at least just not curious about how they are. Now, I just feel like I need to find the right person, and I believe I can do that. I'm in that weird stage right now, where I kiiiinda want a girlfriend, and I sometimes feel lonely, but at the same time, I don't really mind if I don't have one.


Well, whatever works for you is just great   And yeah, that's exactly how I feel as well. If I'm with someone, I need to be physically there with them. Oh, I can understand that. Two times a week may sound okay, but it may not sound like enough. Hang in there, though! You'll eventually find time to be with each other, and have a great time!

I was in that stage for awhile too, or at least I take things a little more slowly than other people in  relationships I was a little lonely too (partly because I have few friends too, but hey) but personally I don't have much attraction towards most of the people around me either. I don't think I have high standards, just the type of people I like romantically are rare.. I got to know my boyfriend by a neat coincidence honestly ^^'

And yeah, we just need to come up with some stuff to do and plan around our schedules. We saw Deadpool a little while back and that was fun It helps that we have interests in common(like to exercise, metal music, video games, etc.) so it shouldn't be too hard.

[Ræfóa Aldrnari]

I bet that stage will come to a lot of people, especially ones that have been in relationships before. Yeah, I don't have too many friends either, and the ones I have are mostly online. I hope to find more friends at my next school too, though. Yeah, I feel the same way. It's not like a potential partner has to be perfect for me, it's just rare that I find people I feel romantically attracted to. Especially when every other girl around me (at my age) spend their whole weekend partying, getting drunk, and... getting physical with other guys. That's just not what I'm interested in.


I'm sure you'll come up with something great, and have an awesome time with it. Oh, Deadpool is hilarious!   I'm happy to hear you share so many interests, you seem like you were really meant to meet

[Proto Triose]

I have commented before, but I love reading all the positive talk and uplifting comments here. I think a relationship is life defining, more than many other things out there. It defines you in a way that siblings or friends just can't. That's mostly because you're opening yourself up to what's essentially a complete stranger, and allowing yourself to be vulnerable. I know what few relationships I've had, they've all been no less than a year long, and every one of them has helped to make me who I am today.

Do I regret any of them? Absolutely not. I wouldn't be here, with all of you, if it wasn't for the decisions I've made, the people I've met, and the path I have walked. It sucks being alone, but I wouldn't trade where I am for anything. I firmly believe there is somefur out there for everyone. You have only to wait, and she or he will find you in the least likely of places and the least likely of ways.

A relationship is deeper and more meaningful than just sex. It's someone that completes you, like that missing puzzle piece you've looked for for years, but the damn cat knocked it under the tv stand and it's been los my for longer than you can remember. But finally you find it! It's someone that makes you more like yourself; a better version of yourself. Your support when things go wrong. Your cheer team when something great happens.

I don't know why I decided to comment a big long post here. I don't know if anyone even wants my long-winded opinion. It's not even advice, just observations. But ... To those that have found it, don't ever let it go. To those of us who haven't, never give up hope.

Love you all.

[Pegu]

To those that have found it, don't ever let it go.

Live Wire has a rather heavy ball and chain around his ankle, so for me, he ain't goin' anywhere.