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Dysphoria.
« on: December 14, 2015, 09:26:23 PM »
The topic is dysphoria: Are you comfortable in your own skin? Why or why not? Describe your perfect body, is it different from your own? If you have dysphoria, how do you cope?

The rules for this thread are the same as any other: please be mature and considerate of others feelings. This is a serious problem for some. (Like me.)

« Last Edit: May 01, 2016, 09:40:32 PM by Evnamishko »
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Re: Dysphoria.
« Reply #1 on: December 14, 2015, 09:29:31 PM »
I've got a touch of species dysphoria, i also wish i was shorter.
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Re: Dysphoria.
« Reply #2 on: December 14, 2015, 09:31:53 PM »
I'm fine the way I am. Sure, I could lose some wieght, but it's whatever to me. Also, I was born with this body, so I have to deal with it the best I can. So far, so good. I've survived 18 years, and I'll survive much much longer.
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Re: Dysphoria.
« Reply #3 on: December 14, 2015, 09:38:47 PM »
That's nice Tim. I have no idea what that feels like, I've never liked my body.
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Re: Dysphoria.
« Reply #4 on: December 14, 2015, 09:39:17 PM »
Dysphoira is a part of my life.


To make it short, IRL I am a 21 year old normal looking male. I even have a handlebar mustache (I know.). On the inside however, IE who I see myself as, I am female. It makes it hard sometimes when I think about it,  but I've found ways of living with it happily.
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Re: Dysphoria.
« Reply #5 on: December 14, 2015, 09:57:50 PM »
Sometimes I feel as if my birth was a mistake. I feel trapped inside of this body. I've wished so many times to wake up one day and finally be the person I wish I was. But it never happens... I'm just stuck this way...
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Re: Dysphoria.
« Reply #6 on: December 14, 2015, 10:15:10 PM »
I know that there are steps and procedures I can take to change my body into the way I want it to be. I just can't do anything now now because I'm not independent. I'm so sick of waiting, I can't take it much longer.
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Re: Dysphoria.
« Reply #7 on: December 15, 2015, 01:06:35 AM »
I know that there are steps and procedures I can take to change my body into the way I want it to be. I just can't do anything now now because I'm not independent. I'm so sick of waiting, I can't take it much longer.

Why not try experimenting with your online identity and fursona until you can? Just a thought.

I deal with dysphoria to different degrees, though most of it centers around my chest. Hopefully that will be fixed in a few months, however.

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Re: Dysphoria.
« Reply #8 on: December 15, 2015, 01:21:25 AM »
I try, but I always wind up becoming depressed since I want it so bad in real life.
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Re: Dysphoria.
« Reply #9 on: December 15, 2015, 05:00:37 AM »
I know that there are steps and procedures I can take to change my body into the way I want it to be. I just can't do anything now now because I'm not independent. I'm so sick of waiting, I can't take it much longer.

Why not try experimenting with your online identity and fursona until you can? Just a thought.

I deal with dysphoria to different degrees, though most of it centers around my chest. Hopefully that will be fixed in a few months, however.

First thing, that is pretty much what my main character has become. He was originally just a developing story character of mine I decided to roleplay with for kicks, but over time he's become sort of a more ideal avatar of myself.

Second thing, that is also one of the major traits that tend to bug me as well (assuming you mean the boobles :P ). I don't hate em, but sometimes they feel odd to have. Plus they're a bit inconvenient anyway.

One of the things that I've been wondering about in relation to gender dysphoria is if it develops more severely if one's family and surroundings are more forceful about gender norms and whatnot. What do you think?
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Re: Dysphoria.
« Reply #10 on: December 15, 2015, 05:06:32 AM »
"One of the things that I've been wondering about in relation to gender dysphoria is if it develops more severely if one's family and surroundings are more forceful about gender norms and whatnot. What do you think?" ~ Evna

(Sorry, I'm really stupid with quoting things  :P )

The answer is yes. This is based on things I've heard talking to people within the transgender community or just people questioning it or whatever (I'm not sure how to put it). It seems like when parents, families, surroundings are more strict about gender norms, gender dysphoria is more severe. This may or may not be the case for all cases. It's just an observation.
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Re: Dysphoria.
« Reply #11 on: December 15, 2015, 05:06:37 AM »
It can definitely be harder when you're used to gender norms. It makes the whole thing so confusing.

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Re: Dysphoria.
« Reply #12 on: December 15, 2015, 05:24:34 AM »
Yeah. That might be partially why my dysphoria isn't very strong. While some of my family couldn't let go of the fact I wasn't a girly girl, my parents raised me generally gender-neutral, in the sense that they didn't force me to act a way or like a thing if I wasn't interested.

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Re: Dysphoria.
« Reply #13 on: December 15, 2015, 05:37:28 AM »
I guess my dysphoria is strong since it's been there so long. I can remember being a kid and not understanding my body very well. Ever since then my dysphoria was just building up until I finally popped one day. It's still very rough, the only thing that keeps me going is that it might finally be over. I'm going to be talking with a therapist soon. Hopefully next week.
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Re: Dysphoria.
« Reply #14 on: December 16, 2015, 10:42:37 PM »
Another thing, though related to the previous idea I mentioned, I wonder if part of dysphoria is due to the fact that society makes gender norms the rule rather than simply accepting it as more common behavior.
It is true that males and females tend to gravitate toward certain behavior and likings by nature, but it's certainly not the case all the time.
Maybe if society wasn't so dependent on the "girls do x, boys do y" thing, those who don't exactly fit the majority won't feel as alienated as if they aren't supposed to be that sex.

 

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