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Re: Dysphoria.
« Reply #15 on: December 17, 2015, 12:56:55 AM »
Without preexisting definitions of a manly or girly activity, I wouldn't be surprised if people acted the same, regardless of sex.
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Re: Dysphoria.
« Reply #16 on: December 17, 2015, 01:54:13 AM »
I can say regardless of whether I presented as masculine or feminine, I still experienced dysphoria concerning my chest.

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Re: Dysphoria.
« Reply #17 on: December 17, 2015, 02:07:05 AM »
What's wrong with your chest? If I may ask.
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« Reply #18 on: December 17, 2015, 02:17:27 AM »
I have breasts and I do not want them.

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« Reply #19 on: December 17, 2015, 02:35:54 AM »
With me it's the opposite. But I still know how you feel. Not being comfortable in your own skin is a horrible feeling, I wish you the best with your dysphoria.
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« Reply #20 on: December 17, 2015, 02:43:40 AM »
I have breasts and I do not want them.


How much does the associated surgery cost?
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« Reply #21 on: December 17, 2015, 03:02:06 AM »
With me it's the opposite. But I still know how you feel. Not being comfortable in your own skin is a horrible feeling, I wish you the best with your dysphoria.

Same to you. I hope going to a therapist helps you. And by that, I hope you get to see someone who is specialized in gender issues, otherwise it may not be as helpful as you initially hoped for; only saying this because I've been to a number of therapists that weren't trained and it took actually finding one before I started to get help. I'd also suggest looking into LGBT groups, more those focusing on trans issues if you can for help. They can be good for sharing resorces, Cecil.

I have breasts and I do not want them.


How much does the associated surgery cost?

When I was raising money for it, it would cost me $8000 out of pocket for such a surgery. I may be getting said surgery possibly early February depending on how much I like the surgeon. We'll see. At the moment there's only one doctor available to me and I haven't seen his work nor heard much about him. He came highly recommended though. So again, we'll see.

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« Reply #22 on: December 17, 2015, 03:03:51 AM »
If you do end up getting the surgery Mort, I hope it goes well overall.
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« Reply #23 on: December 17, 2015, 03:05:29 AM »
Thanks. At this point all I can do is wait and tell myself it's going to happen.

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« Reply #24 on: December 17, 2015, 03:21:04 AM »
Oh god, that surgery is expensive. Looks like that might be out of the question for me. :I

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« Reply #25 on: December 17, 2015, 03:26:25 AM »
That's out of pocket expenses, and at the time, travel for staying a week whereabouts I was having the surgery. At the time traveling from SC to FL, then staying in FL for a week. It varies from surgeon to surgeon. It also varies with who will take insurance and who won't. If top surgery is something you're interested in, I suggest looking over whether your state includes transgender needs on their insurance or just looking over whether your insurance covers it. I'd also suggest checking out this website as it is a valuable resource when it comes to finding a surgeon near you. If you're lucky there's a chance that insurance will cover the procedure at least partially.

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« Reply #26 on: December 17, 2015, 06:09:50 AM »
Thank you for the site. I'm still trying to decide if I really want to do top surgery if I get the chance, since I'm still trying to figure myself out. I'm greatly leaning toward it, and I don't feel any reason to keep my breasts, but I'm worried I might regret it later due to being "used" to them, or the likely family/others' response, to be honest. I know I shouldn't let other people control my decisions, but I prefer not to have attention on myself after such a big (and controversial) change.
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« Reply #27 on: December 17, 2015, 12:11:24 PM »
Eventualy I would like surgery as well. I'm aware of the consequences and am very willing to except them. However, right now, I'm hoping to go into HRT. (Hormone Replacement Therapy)
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« Reply #28 on: December 17, 2015, 12:17:20 PM »
Knowing me, I'm probably gonna get paranoid and remove this post later on, so enjoy it while it's here.

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I don't like getting really sappy and personal on the forums, but as I said, this is something I've been trying to come to terms with for a long time.

Edit: Yep, it happened. Okay, pretty much what I said was, I'm thinking about the feelings and experiences I've had since I was a kid, and now I'm questioning if I should transition.
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« Reply #29 on: December 17, 2015, 12:20:50 PM »
I wouldn't remove the post, this is why I made the thread. So people can talk about this.
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