Dysphoria.

[Cecilia Peromi]

Of course you will. Determination and perseverance are the keys to success.

[Rob_Silvermyst]

With success within your grasp, you are filled with detemmienation!

[HollowOfHaze]

With success within your grasp, you are filled with detemmienation!

I understand this reference.

[Shiothefox]

Increasingly, I am less able to tolerate being 'male'. I don't like being almost six feet tall with a masculine stature, and I often wish I were born female, or that I had more female features. Oddly enough, I never felt this way before puberty, although I never could associate with other boys very well, and I was more comfortable around girls.

[Oanta]

Personally, I have always been happy to be male and wouldn't want to change that.  However, there are still some things that I don't like about my body for various reasons. What I try to do is figure out my options for being able to fix some of those errors and then decide whether those are worth it to try.  For me, this means figuring out a workout routine that works for me while also figuring what is best for me to eat without breaking the bank.  It's a slow process but I think I'm getting there.

I also like to hang around girls more than guys. The reason is that my temperament and things I like to talk about are usually far different from any of the guys I might hang out with.

In summary, I guess what I'm trying to say is that this kind of stuff requires some soul searching and frank honesty with yourself to find out what makes you happy. 

[Sylvie]

I don't like being almost six feet tall with a masculine stature,

Me and my mother are over six feet tall. Being tall doesn't make you less feminine.

[HollowOfHaze]

To me, height has no relation to femininity or masculinity.

[The Past]

As I mentioned earlier in the thread (or at least what remains of that post -- I chickened out because it detailed a personal event), my initial description of my dysphoria was very downplayed. It really did affect me, but not in the typical "UGH I'M TRAPPED IN THIS FEMALE BODY I WANT TO CUT OFF MY BREASTS" way many people tend to hear, which is part of why I kept denying I was really trans. But after looking things up more, I learned hatred isn't the only way it can develop.

My dysphoria is more of an awkward discomfort, like my female traits don't really belong. I think they look fine with my body alone, but don't fit me. I often think of myself as a male when I'm not conscious of my body, making note of my masculine traits makes me excited, and I had the urge to increase them somehow before knowing transgenderism was a thing. It was part of the reason why I became addicted to the internet when puberty came about. I was already socially awkward to begin with; developing a figure that didn't feel like mine was the final straw that turned me to isolation. But I got "used" to it, more like developed a shaky apathy toward it, and pretty much toward everything in general. When I heard about transgenderism and FTM transitioning, I was intrigued, but I still kept denying. "I'm just an odd tomboy! That's all! Right?!"
I kept making excuses for the feelings I had, but they kept popping up again and again. Some of you might have seen my profile gender go back and forth between "female","agender", and blank repeatedly. It's a product of my confused moments, and it's happened countless times over the years. In all honesty, all the people hopping onto the trans bandwagon made me more confused and even bitter toward the whole transgender concept. It seems some people using it take gender norms too seriously and therefore claim they're trans, or do it for "unique" cred. I kept thinking that's what I was doing too. It made me severely skeptical, up to denying transgender as a legit thing entirely. But my struggle remained, and I kept wanting to learn more regardless.

Now I've accepted I'm transgender, and plan on starting HRT ASAP. I know getting surgery is going to be a pain in the ass money-wise, so I'd rather not worry myself about that until I get the first stage started.

[Goblin Cat 😸]

As I mentioned earlier in the thread (or at least what remains of that post -- I chickened out because it detailed a personal event), my initial description of my dysphoria was very downplayed. It really did affect me, but not in the typical "UGH I'M TRAPPED IN THIS FEMALE BODY I WANT TO CUT OFF MY BREASTS" way many people tend to hear, which is part of why I kept denying I was really trans. But after looking things up more, I learned hatred isn't the only way it can develop.

My dysphoria is more of an awkward discomfort, like my female traits don't really belong. I think they look fine with my body alone, but don't fit me. I often think of myself as a male when I'm not conscious of my body, making note of my masculine traits makes me excited, and I had the urge to increase them somehow before knowing transgenderism was a thing. It was part of the reason why I became addicted to the internet when puberty came about. I was already socially awkward to begin with; developing a figure that didn't feel like mine was the final straw that turned me to isolation. But I got "used" to it, more like developed a shaky apathy toward it, and pretty much toward everything in general. When I heard about transgenderism and FTM transitioning, I was intrigued, but I still kept denying. "I'm just an odd tomboy! That's all! Right?!"
I kept making excuses for the feelings I had, but they kept popping up again and again. Some of you might have seen my profile gender go back and forth between "female","agender", and blank repeatedly. It's a product of my confused moments, and it's happened countless times over the years. In all honesty, all the people hopping onto the trans bandwagon made me more confused and even bitter toward the whole transgender concept. It seems some people using it take gender norms too seriously and therefore claim they're trans, or do it for "unique" cred. I kept thinking that's what I was doing too. It made me severely skeptical, up to denying transgender as a legit thing entirely. But my struggle remained, and I kept wanting to learn more regardless.

Now I've accepted I'm transgender, and plan on starting HRT ASAP. I know getting surgery is going to be a pain in the ass money-wise, so I'd rather not worry myself about that until I get the first stage started.

Yes, it's true dysphoria spawns in different ways. You don't have to hate your body to feel dysphoria, but discomfort or disconnect is a big part of it. Dysphoria can range from the discomfort of revealing your assigned at birth gender to as bad as others experience it where they hate their body.

It's nice to hear you've come through with understanding yourself. I think I've offered it before, but if you ever need to pick someone's brain, you're free to PM me. Each trans person is different and the one narrative that seems to get the most traction is not how everyone experiences being transgender.

I'd also like to say that people don't choose to be transgender to be unique, though. If someone's really trans I doubt they do it for funsies. I know I didn't. It was far from a choice.

[The Past]

I know not all do, but I know for a fact that some do. Some absolutely do want to get into it for attention/funsies/special treatment, and they happily admit it, and I've found it ticks off other transgender people as well. Of course, the attention seekers are a minority, but it still badly colored my perception of transgender people and pushed me further into denial. Once I learned they're not all like that and started accepting myself, I became worried I would be grouped in with those people once I do start transitioning.

I came out to my dad some days ago (went well!) and explained my concern about that, and he told me (paraphrased) "Why does it matter what people assume? They clearly don't know you!"
And he's right. Having that support helped me feel more at ease.

[jessie_bunny_girl]

I actually brought this to my therapist yesterday she said there is no such thing as "species dysphoria" or wishing you were another species… She DID mention "species ENVY" which is totally a thing apparently


I think I almost agree with that when she delved in further stating that the only clinical diagnosis using the word Dysphoria that is used in Medical Coding these days is for transgenderism



She also said (and I don't know whether to agree or disagree with this due to my own medical training) "Dysphoria cannot be "claimed" it is diagnosed. So anyone who claims they they have dysphoria is not telling the truth"




I suffer from Gender Dysphoria. Hence the therapy. I was diagnosed back in July 2015 with a severe form. So it does kind of bug me when someone says so nonchalantly; "Oh yeah I suffer from Dysphoria" It took me about 4 months to fully be comfortable with it, and actually speak out. I originally went in for feeling depressed and to work on my anxiety issues, and I was diagnosed as dysphoric.


It's a serious condition that no one should really take any sort of pride in, at least until it is fixed.
My therapist concluded "the only way to cure a dysphoric state is to fix it" meaning for the general populace hormone replacement therapy, and surgery.


Yeah I won't lie… I also have, what people here refer to as, species dysphoria… but it's just "Species Envy" The only reason I didn't argue with that, is my therapist well… she went through schooling for more than half her life

[Oanta]

Thanks for sharing.  It must be hard to feel out of place in your own body.  I'm glad that you are able to talk things through with your therapist and it sounds like she is understanding and willing to explain things.  Some people may just say, "You're wrong.  I'm right.  I went through x amount of years of school and you didn't." 


On a side note, I think all furries have a little species envy.  Else, they wouldn't have the fursona that they do. 

[Folic Acid]

I personally have never felt exactly right with anything Madness has helped a little but in real life I just can't agree with my body the things I imagine I can't do with my body and I just can't feel right

[Unchainedfox]

I am glad that there are other people like me on this site. Dysphoria has ruled my life since the age of 10 but due to my lack of knowledge, being bullied, and confused I did nothing, which I still regret to this day. But I've been taking steps to get my life back on track! I am currently dealing with transition, though it is a slow process, I am a lot happier in my life.

Depression comes strongly with dysphoria and I am a good listener so if anyone just needs someone to talk too. I am willing to listen as I am sure a lot of other people are.