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I got some issues, have any suggestion?
« on: February 20, 2016, 10:01:06 PM »


As the title says, I have some issues. Life at home is really bad, but moving out is not an option and talking about the problems only makes them worse because dad thinks everything is perfect, therefore it must be.

I have major trust issues. I have for years and still do. And it doesn't help that I am super paranoid. As in I am constantly looking around wherever I am identifying threats, ways to neutralize them, and escape routes, even though I have never been attacked or stalked. There is no one that I fully trust, and I have 0 trust for someone when I first meet them, and it takes a long time for me to trust them even the slightest. How do I stop? I want to be able to trust people, and not worry whoever I am.

I am anti social. The only times I like to interact with people is in a competition, or if we are gathered around a common interest. And the area where I am in is known for people ignoring each other. I was fine before we moved here years ago. And on the couple occasions I was starting to make a friend, dad ran them off. I currently have one friend who moved hundreds of miles away. How do I become social? I don't want to be a lone wolf.

I don't have a drivers license or job and we are not allowed on social media(the only reason I am here is because it is on an iPod touch that my dad thinks I am selling, but I actually bought it so I can start doing what I want, furry, social media, etc.)

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Re: I got some issues, have any suggestion?
« Reply #1 on: February 22, 2016, 12:07:03 AM »
You ask how do you stop....

You don't,  your trust issues are your minds way of protecting you.  I think by reading between the lines, and although you did say you have never been stalked or attacked.. your father keeps you pretty isolated... so that may fuel your distrust of others.
Making friends is hard... especially when you have trust issues, so by finding people with like interests you can make yourself more open to others. 
When your talking to someone and you start those feelings of doubt, try taking a step back and asking yourself what the person has said or done for you to distrust them... by analyzing what it is that's making you feel this way you can work to help yourself get around it.
Joining a place like this will help too
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Re: I got some issues, have any suggestion?
« Reply #2 on: February 22, 2016, 12:52:29 AM »
Yes, he tries tO keep us in almost total isolation from people outside our house.

Thanks for the tips. I only joined this site on Friday, and I have been slowly opening up on here. It feels good to be able to talk and not have to worry about dad finding out.

Stepping back when I get defensive is a good idea, I'll try it.

 

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