Anyone else here have no talent whatsoever?

[asterisk]

I'm literally the most pathetic person and biggest failure in the world. Every single thing I tried, I failed at. I have no talent and no skills. And probably no successful future.

I get really jealous when I see all the popufur musicians, artists, whatever. I'll never have any of that. I wanted fame and talent since I was little but knowing I'll never get it just makes me really sad.

I can put 100% effort into something, and someone else can achieve the same result by putting in 1%.

Anyone else feel this way?

[Ræfóa Aldrnari]

While I don't feel the same way, I still want to reply here.


Don't take this the wrong way, but this is probably why you don't succeed at anything. You let it get to your head too easily. Yes, it's really easy for me to say this, when I feel like I do succeed in stuff, but trust me, everyone that does anything has these feeling from time to time.


And hey, no matter what you do, there will always be someone out there better than you (well, unless you devote your entire life to it, I guess). But still, this "I can put 100% effort into something, and someone else can achieve the same result by putting in 1%" is just sad. Again, don't take it the wrong way, but I feel like that's just an excuse to stop doing that certain thing. Yes, of course it is discouraging, I get that 100%. I do feel the same way at times. But that still doesn't stop me from trying, and neither should it stop you.


You say that you wanted fame and talent since you were little, so start doing something about those dreams. I'm not saying that you're not already trying, but keep trying more. Find that thing that you really love doing (and not just something that you think would be cool to be able to do, but something that you really, deeply love doing), and begin doing it. It may be a little difficult, if it includes other people, or is awkward in one way or another, but then you just have to let go of those awkward feelings. The most succesful people are the ones that stopped caring about what other people said, and begun pursuing their dreams. Again, I'm not saying that you aren't already pursuing your dreams, but from what it sounds like in your post, you should really try even harder.


I hope the best for you.

[Michen_S]

Sure, people who are famous might seem like they just do it with ease. But do you know how they got there? They have practised for years and years and years. YouTubers, artists, musicians, movie stars, you name it; they all had to start from the bottom. They probably also had times where they felt like they failed. But what portraits them is that they didn't give up.
I suggest you find something you like to do, and pick that up as hobby to begin with. Yes, your chances of actually making a career are pretty small (most artists were dead when they got famous), but you can try. Pick up hobbies, study something, there are so many options. Also remember, you don't have to be famous to be important. I can pray for you if you want. Good luck.

[asterisk]

Sure, people who are famous might seem like they just do it with ease. But do you know how they got there? They have practised for years and years and years. YouTubers, artists, musicians, movie stars, you name it; they all had to start from the bottom. They probably also had times where they felt like they failed. But what portraits them is that they didn't give up.
I suggest you find something you like to do, and pick that up as hobby to begin with. Yes, your chances of actually making a career are pretty small (most artists were dead when they got famous), but you can try. Pick up hobbies, study something, there are so many options. Also remember, you don't have to be famous to be important. I can pray for you if you want. Good luck.

I don't want to do it as a career or be important, I just want people to like me. I'm lonely as hell.

[Ventus Fall]

If you want friends, I'd suggest to not go for fame. Because you won't know them who your friends really are, or if they just wat to be around you because you're famous.
Try to find a subject to talk about, be a bit pro-active. It's god-earthly hard, I know (trust me). You need to be confident about yourself, or at least show it. People are kind of lazy and kind of afraid themselves to seek out contact. Basically, if you want friends, show you're a confident and friendly person.
It might help if you indeed find something you like doing and keep at it. You don't have to be good at it, or instantly good at it. Let yourself enjoy it, let yourself develop more with skills pertaining that which you like. There's something for everyone. Be it drawing, painting, writing music, writing stories, coding (websites, games, programms), publishing, fashion designer, interior decorator, psycologist/psychaitrist, philosopher, etc. etc.
If you find something you like doing, that can help in various ways.
For one, it can help you to talk about something. Secondly it can help you find like-minded people. Thirdly, it can build up your confidence in more than one way, as you have now something you like to do, as well as something that you can use in conversation with others

I don't know if this is the specific help you were looking for, but I hope I helped.

[Ori]

To be fair. Almost no one is 'talented' so to speak. A lot of people have sacrificed a lot before hand to gain what they have now.
In any case. If you're looking for friends, you have to start with fun hobbies. For an example... Play Magic the Gathering, usually there's a couple nerds around every school that plays it quietly in the corner at their lunch table. Or Pokemon. Or things that could involve other people. My tactic is keeping playing cards on me at all times during college to break the ice. And since everyone has played Black jack somewhere in their life (and it's easy to teach.) it starts a conversation and a friendly match. A different friend of mine did magic Tricks to people at work. (Skills on the other hand will get you popularity maybe in a class, and if you're a good guy people may like you, but I can't guarantee friendships or friendly rivals from my experience.)

[anoni]

There exists two mindsets on obtaining happiness, I used to call this the Eastern and Western philosopher mindset but everytime I do someone tells me why that's wrong so instead I'll call it the exoview and endoview of happiness.


  Exoview is the ideal we're all taught in an industrial society, that to gain happiness one must gain fulfillment and to gain fulfillment one must put in work. The concept here is that happiness is obtained by working hard and succeeding at that work, to make positive contributions to society as a whole and to be, for lack of a better word, "successful". The exoview of happiness dictates that in order to be happy you must be wealthy, you must be have a good occupational success and you must always be busy, working on something new, forcing your life to have some kind of purpose outside your own. I call it the exoview because exo means "outside" and stresses that happiness comes from your affect on the outside world and its affect on you. That, in order to be happy, you must be validated by those around you and the society that you live in, the happiness comes from outside and thus it's exoview of happiness. This is the type of happiness you are striving for, you are striving to be famous, you are striving to be successful, you are set in the mindset that happiness comes from the outside view, it comes from the validation of others. However, this is not the only view of happiness.


  Endoview is the concept that happiness comes from within, instead of trying to adapt your surroundings to improve your life, you instead adapt your mental state to be comfortable in your surroundings. The endoview of happiness stresses the concept of deep meaningful relationships, self-actualization and mental harmony, it is the belief that one can be happy by simply realizing that, within himself, he is worth something, he does not need the validation of other people, but instead simply needs the validation from within himself. In order to be happy in the endoview model, one needs to comfortable with oneself, to reject societies demands and realize that one can rise above them, one does not need to be wealthy, or "successful" in order to be happy, only comfortable, moral and calm. The Endoview dictates that happiness comes from inside, not outside, it comes from you being comfortable with yourself.


  Perhaps, you've been trying too hard to focus on the exoview of happiness, trying to hard to get happiness from other people, when perhaps you should focus more on the endoview, trying to become happy with yourself, seeking happiness from within yourself and to those close around you.

[Captain Degenerate]

All I can say is that to get better you have to work hard thats about it.


In my personal opinion anyone can draw and anyone can be quite good at it some may need more time and patience then others but drawing is a thing that as long as you can hold a pen or pencil or brush you can do it.


Hell there are artists with no hands better then experienced artists who do have hands so really its all hard work to soem it may seem easy but the best artists took years and years.

[Salakar Crocoli]

Asterisk, I feel your pain. I think you have the same kind of mind as me where you work really hard on something and you back up from it, then instead of your brain going "this is what you can do better next time" it goes "YOU DID ALL THESE THINGS WRONG AND YOU SHOULD NEVER TRY THIS AGAIN". So what's really needed isn't practice or finding something better to do. It's really just tricking yourself into letting you make progress instead of shutting you down when you fail.. I think that if you can't do that then you won't be happy with anything you do.