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i have a bit of a problem...
« on: May 17, 2008, 05:09:16 PM »
there is a girl at my school that i like very much an i want to ask her out but here is the problem...my internet mate is going to leave me if i go out with her....i dont know what to do?  :'(
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Re: i have a bit of a problem...
« Reply #1 on: May 17, 2008, 05:28:54 PM »
Are you certain that your feelings will be returned by the girl at school if you ask her out? Be careful not to be hasty, because if she doesn't feel the same way about you, you'll end up alone. Learn a bit more and compare your online mate with her. Which one will make you happier? Who understands you better? Which one likes you more? Which one will be more hurt if without you? Which one is generally a better person to you? Answer questions like this and you should come closer to the right choice.
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Re: i have a bit of a problem...
« Reply #2 on: May 17, 2008, 05:30:31 PM »
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Re: i have a bit of a problem...
« Reply #3 on: May 17, 2008, 05:34:46 PM »
Oh boy, I've been somewhat in a position like that.

Well, first of all; Do you LOVE your mate or do you just like him/her?
Do you think the person you like in RL will go out with you?
Do you think they will like/love you back the same way?

Its a good idea to consider a Mate/Boyfriend/Girlfriend in RL, but I think you should really think about it.
With every relationship theres a 50% chance your going to get hurt or vice versa( which is the other 50% ).

Just dont make the same Mistake I did;
I believed Cory really did love me but,
In the end he just used me and continues trying to.
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Re: i have a bit of a problem...
« Reply #4 on: May 17, 2008, 05:39:58 PM »
Oh boy, I've been somewhat in a position like that.

Well, first of all; Do you LOVE your mate or do you just like him/her?
Do you think the person you like in RL will go out with you?
Do you think they will like/love you back the same way?

Its a good idea to consider a Mate/Boyfriend/Girlfriend in RL, but I think you should really think about it.
With every relationship theres a 50% chance your going to get hurt or vice versa( which is the other 50% ).

Just dont make the same Mistake I did;
I believed Cory really did love me but,
In the end he just used me and continues trying to.

yes i love my mate, very much....an yes the girl(katie is her name) would go out with me(she likes me a lot)
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Re: i have a bit of a problem...
« Reply #5 on: May 17, 2008, 05:46:45 PM »
Mmm...
Well, I think you should talk to your mate about it.

Maybe you guys should take a break?
She/He could try to date people she/he knows in RL and you do the same.

It'll be good for both of you.
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Re: i have a bit of a problem...
« Reply #6 on: May 17, 2008, 05:49:32 PM »
Mmm...
Well, I think you should talk to your mate about it.

Maybe you guys should take a break?
She/He could try to date people she/he knows in RL and you do the same.

It'll be good for both of you.
i did...
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Re: i have a bit of a problem...
« Reply #7 on: May 17, 2008, 05:51:30 PM »
Er..Well, do what your heart tells you.
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Re: i have a bit of a problem...
« Reply #8 on: May 17, 2008, 05:59:30 PM »
i guess your right....
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Re: i have a bit of a problem...
« Reply #9 on: May 17, 2008, 06:20:46 PM »
Here's another question, have you told this other girl you're a furry yet?
ya she knows...my collar kinda gave it away :P
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Re: i have a bit of a problem...
« Reply #10 on: May 17, 2008, 06:28:10 PM »
no she is fine with it...she does find the collar a bit weird...
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Re: i have a bit of a problem...
« Reply #11 on: May 17, 2008, 10:16:11 PM »
how far away is your internet mate? what are your chances of being together in RL?

one of my past girlfriends dumped me because im a furry
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Re: i have a bit of a problem...
« Reply #12 on: May 18, 2008, 12:40:08 AM »
If she finds the collar a bit weird it is possible that you being a furry might interfere later on in some way. Usually something like that is sign that something might become a issue later on. If this girl in RL is not a furry and you are a furry, thats a big difference. It might become a problem. If you love your Online Mate enough that you think you'd like to meet him/her eventually, theres no reason to risk that relationship.

Personally if this RL girl was a furry or not would be enough for me to make a choice. That might sound bad in the wrong context but really if shes a furry too then I know it will never be an issue and I will be free to be the way I wanna be. You should consider that

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Re: i have a bit of a problem...
« Reply #13 on: May 18, 2008, 01:45:49 AM »
I agree with Disp...

For one. Your online mate is a furry. and that's one big thing to consider. If the girl in RL isn't a furry then yea... You might have problems on down the road. Unless you could turn her in to a furry by her own free will. Then you have t o decide whether or not who you love/like more. the girl in RL? or your online mate. But it's really all your choice...no matter what you do I think someone is going to get hurt...you just have to be careful who it is...also...it depends on the chances of meeting your online mate in RL. Like how far away they live...if it's too far and you have a slim chance at meeting them...well. You would probably be better off taking the girl you know in RL as to your online mate. Like...My mate she lives in Washington. and I live in Ontario. so. there's a fair chance I could meet her.

But hey this is my opinion....you have to make the choice not I or anyone else here on the forum. It's up to you. Make the choice you think is right :3

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Re: i have a bit of a problem...
« Reply #14 on: May 18, 2008, 07:53:38 AM »
I completely agree with Dispsosaurus and xShadowx...
You've gotta think about who'll truly love you for who/what you are. If anything about you may become an issue with either of them, you may wish to reconsider whether they are right for you or not. Still, it's entirely up to you and what do I know? Follow your heart, your instinct and your common sense...
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